Bonding

It's only been a month...you need to give it some more time. Do you stay home with your daughter and your husband work? How old is your daughter? I would recommend your husband and daughter spend some time alone together and do something fun, of course that depends on her age. It just takes time, so often these children have been abused or neglected and they have trouble with the gender that is associated with their former abuser. Hang in there...it will get better.

Originally Posted By NeilYou didn't mention her age; it makes soem difference but not as much as some other things.As mentioned, if you are home with her and Dad is away at work she doesn't have as much chance to get used to him. I don't know what situation she was in prevously, nor do I have speccific knowledge about care practices in the Philippines, but it's a fair guess that there were never men around in her life before. We look different, sound different, and smell different. The more of the basic care routines he does, feeding, diapering, bathing, and so on, the more chance she'll have to get used to him.

Originally Posted By DeniseThe gender thing is true. One of our sons would have NOTHING to do with his Dad the first 3 mos we're home from Rusia. ALL the caregivers we women. He'd never seen a guy up close before. He was 2 1/2. His brother is 3wks younger and didn't miss a beat. Now 6 months in Dad is great and he will let Dad do things for him. It was tough going though. The tantrums when I left gradully subsided and now he loves to do stuff with Dad.Give her time, she'll let you know when she is ready for a Dad.