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My husband and I have always wanted to adopt youth. We are both high school teachers and have a special place in our hearts, and an astounding amount of patience for dealing with youth. Last year in June, we met a fabulous girl and she moved in with us in August for an adoptive placement.
For the first two months she was very happy to be adopted by us. But then, when we went to TPR, her guardian ad litem (GAL), allowed our daughter to talk to her birth mom. The birth mom told her that everything was fine in the family and that when she gets out of jail she wants to get everyone back together (interesting since they are all in jail). She told my daughter to "fight against" getting adopted, and since then, my daughter has been fighting.
CYFD and the therapists said we should adopt her anyway because a lot of kids do this. And we love her so we did. The official adoption date was May 7th. We added a former student of my husbands and mine to the family. This foster sister was 17 and planning to age out with us. However, she taught the 13 year old how to get into the mental hospital and stay there. So my daughter has been in the mental hospital for two weeks now. She is in acute care because she is saying that if they send her home with us she will kill herself. That she wants to kill herself because we adopted her.
My husband and I get a lot of support and always reach out for help. I am pretty sure that her issues are not really with us and they are with her bio family, she has not made any allegations of abuse or mistreatment. She just says that adoption makes her want to hurt herself. But I need some long term perspective and hope on how this can turn out. She is incredibly smart and she is manipulating the system. But she won't talk to us or have visits with us. The hospital finally realizes that she has a pattern of manipulating the system, but I am worried she will do something to "show everyone" she is in charge.
Please give me some hope and perspective!!
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