to all adoptee's

Originally Posted By Jackie BetteridgeMelissa I am an adoptee and I have always wanted to meet my birth mother, I have just started activley searching for her and I hope she is already looking for me I know from the way I feel that I would feel so complete if my birth mother would find me. Don't give up looking for him you both deserve to have closure and to feel complete Best Of Luck in your search.

Originally Posted By Louannego for it all the way. I have been found by 3 birth brothers and it is awesome. good luck to all who are looking.

Originally Posted By leigheni am adoptee who is looking for her birthmom , i do know how you feel losting a part of you , i bet he is thinking about you every day ,i always think about my birthparents , and good luck in finding in the future.

Originally Posted By MI just started looking for my b-parents and have never had a day where I don't think of them, I also have a 14 year old son, who has been living with my brother and his wife for the last 11 years, even though he knows me as Mom, it's still hard. I hope you do find your boy and know that most of us adopted kids would love the chance to know our real parents

Originally Posted By JessicaI agree with everyone here. Finding your birth family is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Last October I found my birth mother and her family. I know have two brothers and another sister which is wonderful.Now I don't want to sound like the others that have told you not to search, but you have to think of your son. Walking into a childs life where he may have no clue about you can be devastating. I know it sounds bad but some adopted parents do not tell they're children that they were adopted. I know of a friend of mine that I grew up with that she was not told till she was 15 that she was adopted. I know it sounds mean but maybe you should wait till he's 18. I was 21 when I found my birth mother and we were both searching for each other since I turned 18. I believe that being 21 was a great time for me to find her. I know me saying this may be upsetting and I know that feeling of wanting your blood relatives but trust me, your son may not be ready at 14 to meet you. I'm not trying to be rude or anything. But as much as you want to meet your son you have to think of his needs as well and how this will effect him.

Originally Posted By KathyI think you need to listen to your heart...not what other people think.I have just heard from my 20 year old daughter.I always felt she would want information about me that she deserved. We have a long beautiful and content life ahead of us.There are no words to describe how I am feeling.WOW!!!!!!!!Hang in there and follow your heart and do the right thing.The rewards are HUGE!!!!

Originally Posted By RENAUDGO FOR IT I WISH MY B-MOM WAS LOOKING FOR ME HOWEVER 14 IS A YOUNG AGE. BE CAREFUL LOTS OF FEELING WILL BE INVOLVED

Hi Melissa, I am 25 and have been searching for my birth family for 4years. I wish i had started searching sooner. I sometimes wonder the same as you, but in reverse...how would my birth mother feel about me searching? I am petrified that she won't want to know me as i feel that if she did she would have found me by now. I can't speak for your son, but as an adoptee I am very curious to know where i come from, my birth family's history and whether or not i look like any of them. I think you should continue looking, just tread carefully as he is still young. I knew from day dot that i was adopted, but he may not and this could come as a huge shock. Best of luck with your search sweetie!! Cassandra xx