silent husband

What is a silent partner?

Since you went 2 days with no answer, I will offer an answer. My husband is the silent partner. He stands at my side, but stays out of most everything, and only says something if he objects. Sometimes not even then. This was training from birth, believe me, I love him with my heart and soul, but to retrain... oo it's been a chore, and I am not sure I will ever completely crack him out of his shell. Mine does it for different reason, not by choice, by personality. He is 40 years old, the baby of 8 kids, they lived next door to gram/pap, graduated hs, and went straight to the army. So growing up he had his parents, grandparents, and 7 siblings bossing him around, the low man on the totem pole, left home for Army.. Did what he was told. I honestly don't think he was given much chance in life to think for himself in a lot of ways, or make decisions. It's amazing to me the things he sits back and watches, things that make me like a caged and starved lion. You know the person they say "He doesn't say much but when he does!" That's my husband, certain things rattle his cage. Have to understand also, I am a very self defensive person, I fight my own battles! When he met me I had graduated police academy, and was working hockey game security and race car "pits", so I could hold my own. Came home with a fat lip, black eye from work one night from breaking up a free for all battle at a game, as well as battle marks from breaking up pit battles between race crews, that included tire irons and large wrenches. I loved my job, every bit of it. So I can imagine this was a bit hard for him, but from day one, this is how things were. His personality and mine are perfect together, even by our "signs" Kids are something that rattles his cage. Sometimes I think he is still a kid in a lot of ways. I joke I have a 40 year old kid in my house. It's so true in a lot of ways. As women... you know what I mean when I say... "mood to bicker" we all get in them... hormones.... LOL! But my husband wouldn't raise his voice to me.. and oh that can be so frustrating. I never was a "throw things" person till I met my husband. Yet, in a heart beat when one of my 2 oldest raise their voice and mouth him... he jumps at the chance to argue back... *shakes head* I don't get it. But let a teacher or the school do something unfair. I have taught grasshopper well.. LOL caged staving lion ROAR! I say this with my deepest love for him, I have been teaching him to be more... umm.... adult? Say SOMETHING, cause I am tired of making ALL the decisions in life. For the last 8-9 years we have been together, my family has really never heard him say more then one word at a time in response to questions. My family is so not quiet...they tease him about it, just makes him worse. My mother rattled his cage last fall and for 2 hours they talked.. she told her husband... "R and I were talking and.... " "he was talking? like complete sentences?" my step father asked... I love and adore him, and the silent partner isn't a bad thing at all, as long as their is a ... I don't want to say loud.. or strong... but in our case that would be the right words.