Do it right, do it private, No agencies!

Originally Posted By LRI recently placed in December. My open adoption was entirely private. I met the couple through friends. I had investigated agencies and was disgusted by what I found. As has been stated here, they are nothing but dealers of human flesh. In my opinion they are no better than pimps. Most agencies do what is called "triple dipping" They will promise your baby to three different couples, collecting fees from all three (which they keep) and then tell 2 of the couples that the mother changed her mind. One girl in my church who had thought of placing her child and signed up with an agency changed her mind in her 8th month (which is her right!) She and her family were harrased until they had to take legal action. My adoption was as wonderful as reliquishing your child I guess is possible. They only paid my medical and the legal expenses. In other words..my baby was not sold! The entire adoption was in an atmoshphere of trust, and greed played no part. They are open to whatever contact I am comfortable with. Right now, while I am grieving and getting used to the seperation, pictures and e-mails are about all I can deal with. But later, when I am ready for more, my extended family will be waiting for me. I definetly feel that there needs to be government investigations into these agencies who victimize everybody, the Birthmother, The Adoptive Parents, and ultimately the child. With vultures like this circling, is it any wonder women are beating a path to abortion clinics in record numbers?