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My daughter was abused sexually when she was 3 to 7. Lately she has been talking about the case of the 10 year old girl that became pregnant (local news). She is 9. She was worried that she was pregnant. She then began asking questions about the 10 year old ( I don't know when or where she heard about the case, she does not watch the evening news, I watch the morning news before she is up.) What I am trying to boil this down to is: She asked if the 10 year old girl liked what was happening to her. I am/was not sure how to answer this, since I have read that in some cases the child does like certain aspects of the abuse. I did not want to answer this incorrectly. So I copped out and said I did not know because I did not know the girl. I want to be prepared for this question should it resurface.
Additionally, I am having trouble finding this board on the new list.....
Dear Peggy,
I believe I responded to you directly, but I'd like to post part of my response here for others.
Generally, you would want to be very clear that that happened is wrong and the person who did this to the 10 year old is a "sick" person. That a child is too young to really know what it is that is being done and is too young to really know what to make of what is happening. The child may feel scared, angry, or even...if the abuse began at a young age, accepting of the attention, but this is not right and something the child will need to relearn because the care taker taught them something wrong. I think you get the idea.
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I had been stressing the adult is always wrong. it always the adult's fault.....but when she asked the direct question, it threw me off a little, now I have the answer.