legal question

I have a similar question. The birth mom of my little girl did not tell anyone she was married. We published and finaled 6 mos ago. I know he can not come back on this one, BUT she is pregnant and is wanting to place the child here with her sibling. I am understanding that he HAS to sign espcially now that we know that she is married to him. I sthere no way around this ? She will not disclose his name or anything....

The answer to both questions depends on state law. But, there is a very real possibility that the intentional failure to name the father could cause a great deal of difficulty. Remeber Baby Jessica and Baby Richard? Their fathers were not properly advised, and the children were taken from their respective adoptive families. The best advice is to tell the truth and the whole truth. It is the onlt way to protect the child, yourself, and the adopting family. As to the husband, if he is NOT the actual father, then state law dictates what must happen. In most states, if it can be shown that he is not and could not be the actual father, his rights can be terminated. (What you would be doing is "rebutting the presumption of paternity" that being married carries. If they are not living together, or having relations, and it is someone else's, usually that can be dealt with.) But in any case involving a child and its future, the best course is always the truth.

thanks for the advice. I too would like her to have the birthfather sign. He is also her legal husband. She refuses to involve him in anyway to the point that no one knows his name. I am concerned as she can not support this child when it comes and yet how can I take this child into my home without any legal papers signed??? This is my adopted child's full sibling. I am really at a loss as to what to do/ she lives in Ohio and we live in Utah.