ISO Child Born 11-27-74-Memphis, Tn

Well it's December 2, 2007 and I still am looking. I did contact DHS in Nashville and gave them all of the information I had and they returned my letter stating that it would take up to a year to research my records and I would have to send them $250.00 to do the search! DHS asking me for money? I think NOT! I will keep praying that someday somebody will answer my posts! She/He would be 33 this year. Maybe they just don't want to be found - but I really don't mean any harm - just want the knowledge that they are ok.

[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][/FONT] I'm kinda weirded out, but I received an email from a young lady stating she was looking for her birthmom on Thursday of last week. She put her personal phone number in the email and asked me to call her, which I was only able to leave a voice mail. I left my number and then returned to the email and responded to the email. As it turned out, there was a conversation on the phone that I felt turned out pretty good. We discussed DNA testing and I even gave her the information she needed to get her birth records from Nashville, TN, which included my maiden name, hospital she was born in and the "undetermined" birth dates - 11/26/74 or 11/27/74. I advised her that I only knew I was in labor the night of 11/26 and woke up 11/27 and the child had been born. They put me to sleep immediately upon arrival at the hospital and I have no memory of anything between those hours. She stated she worked for an attorney as a paralegal and didn't want anything from me. I advised her at the end of our telephone conversation that even if it turned out that I was not her "birthmom", which I was willing to pay half or all of the DNA test, that we had still made a friend and I would support her anyway I could emotionally through her search. Our conversation was left with she and her daughter were going to make pictures of her and send them to me. I had already sent a picture of myself to her, along with pictures of my other two daughters and 3 of my grandchildren. I felt complelled to do that after looking at her daughter's "Myspace" page and realizing that her daughter looked just like my youngest daughter. Her daughter told me that my daughters and I were the only people she had ever seen that looked like her and that she had been searching for two years. She also stated her "AMom" was not happy with her looking for her "BMom". Then the bottom fell out. The next day she left a message on my cell, while I was at work, that she had thought about it all day and she wasn't ready yet to find her "BMom". I didn't return her call, but I did send her an email and advised her that I understood that this was a difficult situation all the way around and I would respect her wishes. I have not contacted her since. But now I'm really confused as to what to do next time I get an email or a phone call. I'm very unsure about "unleashing" anything else about my private life, especially when I really don't know who this person is that is contacting me. I guess I'm just venting because I do know the answer to what I'm going to do. Until there is some kind of information provided to me that I can wrap my mind around that's not already listed in this forum, I'm pleading the fifth! There were things she said that meant something to my situation, but they were backwards in her info she was giving me, i.e., the hospital name she provided to me was actually the name of the Home for Children that the adoption was through. Well duh! That adoption agency is listed in this forum. I don't think any information provided to me that's listed in this forum is enough to convince me anymore that this person could be the child I put up for adoption so many years ago. I also feel that I will be very careful in the future about giving out anything without obtaining some information myself. She did give me her name and address and cell phone number and it all checked out on the internet. Yes, I checked it because I was scammed several years ago by a member here listed as "Poohbear" and it ripped my heart out. I can't go through that again either. If anyone has any advise or wishes to comment to help me through this "second" disappointing moment, please feel free to contact me here or my email address is listed here as well. I hope whomever she was finds her "BMom" and gives it a chance one day. I know these adoptees don't realize that they could possibly wait too late where our generation could be dead and gone by the time they are "ready". I'm not saying that I would "rush" anyone into a reunion, but that should be considered before the first contact is ever made. I'm too old and emotional to go through this several times before I'm dead.