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Oh, before our last baby came, I called pretty frequently. It wasn't every week. I got more anxious after the attorney asked me if we would be willing to adopt a baby from a very, very young bm. I had said, 'yes', but in the end, the birth grandmother urged the bm to 'parent'. That kinda set my thoughts in 'high gear', so I called and asked 'what else could we do to find out about a baby'?
The attorney then gave other contacts we could 'check out', and we did.
However, in the end, it all happened when I least expected it....from an agency contact I had no idea would 'come through'.
Since then, I have a peace like I have never known concerning adoption. When I get too anxious, I remember that it wasn't anything WE did to bring the baby about.....but the Lord. And, when He feels the right baby is here......He will lead.
(But I know this may not help you feel any better.....and I'm sorry! :) )
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After a very bad experience with an agency I have told people I think from the get go they should tell their worker that they want updates every two weeks or at the very best every week. I believe that is not too much to ask in ANY way. After all, you are trusting these people to work on your behalf. And besides, having to give a weekly or bi-weekly update holds them accountable to what they have or have not done to work for you. But I do agree with Linny. I am not a particularly faithful person, but i believe there were greater forces working that brought our son to us when he came. I can't imagine that any other child at any other time would have been this perfect for our family!