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OK, my girls got their report cards this week. Lydia(my oldest in 2nd) got straight A's(YAYYY Lydia!!)...and of course my little perfectionist was upset because she only got a 94 in Math and she swears she could do better...we are dealing with her perfectionist issues now...lol
But my problem is with Julia, my kindie. Now in kindie they don't get real 'grades' just checks or minuses for the most part. Now if you remember me mentioning Julia has speech problems. She had persistant fluid and reccurnat infections for her first 2 years of life. The doctor detected no significant movement of the eardrum when she had been tested(so she was basically deaf). She got tubes at 2 1/2 and that resolved the problem(and her hearing), but the damage to her speech was done. She has been in speech therepy, ans she is catching up, but its still a noticable problem. Because of this she is pretty self concious of speaking to people that she worries may not be able to understand her. Top this off with the vision problem they found a couple of weeks ago(she now as glasses and is being treated for lazy eye) this has been a rough first 9 weeks for her.
Onto my question....one of the fields on her report card is "Participates in oral activities" and she got a MINUS! This really upset her because she thinks it means she got 'bad grades'. Next to the minus the teacher wrote in "she tries really hard though" and that has me baffled. If she is trying really hard than why give her a minus knowing her history?? And how can one 'try really hard' to participate in oral activities and fail?
I am upset at the teacher, so my husband told me to try to cool off before talking to her about this, but this really has me erked...she really hurt Julia's feelings here...
Anyone have any opinions or insight here? Am I being a overprotective mom or hypersensitve parent?
I really appriciate ANY replies good or bad....
~Emily~
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Well I think your husband was right. First thing is wait til you cool off and then you can discuss this with the teacher. As a teacher and a mom of 2 children who both just started school sometimes I want to just jump in and say things. I have learned to back off since the beginning of the year. I can remember the time parents came in angry and upset and took it out on me. I understand your frustration with the minus but if this is an area that your child is having difficulty with it is something she can work on to improve. My older child is very bright (in fact too bright at times) and my younger one struggles with almost everything (except physical types of activity). He attends speech therapy and is in an ESE class. It is so difficult as a mom and a teacher to see his frustration and how hard he has to work to accomplish things that come so easy to his sister and other children.
Maybe some suggestions you could make to the teacher to help your child participate in group discussions would be: have her start with a small group rather than the whole class (whole class can be very intimidating for a child) have her talk about things she likes so she is comfortable about what she is saying.
These are just some ideas I hope they are helpful.
Lois
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