How selective can you be?

Scout - I don't think you are crazy at all - in fact, when we started our adoption process (I'm an a-mom to 7 month old twin boys) the first place I started was my college newspaper - while I was a "non-traditional" student - it seemed like a good idea - at least we had something to make small talk with right from the beginning! I'm not sure where to tell you to start, except to check out your school paper and maybe the school nurse (or whatever they "really" call them) she may have some ideas Best wishes on finding the right family for your baby! Michelle

Actually, you are right! I remember when I was at school that people did post classifieds. Thanks for the suggestion. (Its been 8 years since I graduated - I don't know how much the infirmary will support me anymore. ;) )

You are in charge of the type of adoptive parents you select how ever I would make sure they did graduate from there.

I feel that as the birth mom you have the right to be as selective as you want. I admire that you care enough to have criteria to be met. I am not sure about the alumni thing, but if that is important to you then that is all that matters. And yes we are called school nurses. I wish you the best in your search and I will help you in anyway possible. If there is anything I can do to help you just let me know. I would give you my email address, however I don't feel comfortable giving it out on an open internet. You can private message me with yours and I'll respond. Best wishes!

I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, this is not meant to cast dispersions on anyone's motives, but.... I would caution anyone, (prospective birth parents and adoptive parents alike), about providing your personal e-mail address to someone you just met over the internet. One of the wonderful features of this board is that you may Private Message someone or e-mail them through the link on their Profile page and your e-mail address will remain unknown. You may have private chats with someone without ever revealing personal information that is impossible to take back once it is given to someone you don't know very much about. We all would love to believe there are no people on here with bad motives, but this is just not true. Please protect yourself by using the features designed for this purpose.

Scout, I am a potential adoptive parent (ie waiting) and I think you should use whatever criteria feel right for you--and I certainly don't think that is crazy. To me, it makes a lot of sense to want certain things in common--whether it's religion, schooling, love of pets, location (near or far), interests etc. No one criteria is any better or worse to me. Good luck finding the right people. I agree with the above posters, the school newspaper, or the alumnae magazine would be excellent places to try, what about alumnae groups in different towns? I know my two colleges have groups of alums that meet in their own towns--that would also be a great resource and wouldn't necessarily involve your using the school resources--you could probably be a bit more directly in contact.

Thanks for the advice everyone! I haven't heard back yet from my college but I am hoping they have some ideas.