How do they choose to show our profile?

We adopted a few years ago through LDSFS and from what I understand it has not changed since then.... You are not told that your profile is being looked at by a birthmother... I know some offices will tell you if you ask but they do not volunteer the information. Personally, I would rather not know.... I think it is easier to just find out when you are chosen and not have the rollercoaster ride of wondering if you will be each time your profile is looked at..... Good luck to you! I hope your wait is short!

LaurelJ that is interseting that you say, "You are not told that your profile is being looked at by a birthmother... I know some offices will tell you if you ask but they do not volunteer the information... we thought that was common practice. When I called our CW trying to find out if our paperwork was done. He told us that we should be getting the letter saying we were approved. Then he told us that a couple of birthmoms were looking over our profiles. We never thought it was important, so we dismissed that. It so happens that one of those bmom's chose our profiles. Not sure what the practice is... gonnabeadaddy

What I meant was that LDSFS does not seem to make a practice of specifically calling families and telling them that their profiles are being looked at.... Sometimes the cw will tell the couple if they are talking anyway..... I know some other agencies call and tell their couples every time their profile is looked at by a birthmom! Very excited for you about your match!

As far as I understand the situation from our caseworker.... They don't make a habit of calling you up and telling your every time. The rollercoaster that would put me on personally would be horrific. There have been two situations where he's had to call and ask us first because of the specifics of the situation. The last one was the last weekend and it was intense since when he called the baby was already a day old. It turns out the state came and took the baby and LDSFS couldn't be involved anymore. If the state hadn't done that she would be ours. Sorry to babble! Anyway... my point was that was very very hard. I didn't eat or sleep for the three days we waited for the situation to work itself out. (Although I feel totally at peace now) Sorry to be so long winded! Good Luck on your Journey!

Taryn wrote: "Does anyone know how the SW chooses our profile to show a birthmother?" This is my understanding of how it usually works: The potential birth parent has a meeting with her case worker in which she details what she would like in an adoptive family. She can be as specific as she wants in any number of areas from the level of education of both the husband and wife to whether or not they have a pet to what they look like physically (meaning not that she is looking for an attractive couple but one who has similar physical characteristics to herself and/or the birth father) to whether they like Dungeons and Dragons (yes, we really did have a birth mom at our agency who wanted to find that in her adoptive couple). Her caseworker takes that information and uses it to pull profiles from those of the waiting couples, trying to match as many of the potential birth parent's criteria as possible. I hope that helps answer your question.

I asked my CW that over a year ago when we first started...and she said "Prayer, lots and lots of prayer" She felt that the biggest part of her job was just to be in tune with the spirit so that she could be directed. She also said that mistakes happen that files are shown that never meant to be shown and they end up the match....and that it all comes down to divine intervention.