Parents Have No Choice

VERY rare that a mentaly ill child has wonderful parents

Unfortunately the state and gov gives DSS/DFCS/CPS too much power. It's one thing to "save" a child from abuse. But to snatch the child away and put it into foster care because the parents refuse "services" that CPS THINKS they need .(parenting class when it was never needed,etc.. drug tests when they never do drugs,etc.) All because someone who know very little about them has different views on raising a child and thinks they do not deserve that child,they go and make up some allegation that might have something to with something that actually happened (or may have never happened) that makes it look like they are abusive. The CPS/social worker comes into the home asking many invasive questions. THEY (or their supervisor) determines whether the child is "at risk" based on speaknig with the parents and how the home looks as well as the allegation. If the social worker feels mom is mentally ill just because she makes the mistake of rambling on& on about about how she would never hurt a child(trying to prove her innocence) ,and it is full grown people who make her upset (adults are not loving innocent people unlike innocent children who just don't know any better) the social may think ok she might have a mental issue,lets take away the kids and make her take parenting class and get a mental health evaluation. 6months later because they cannot afford to pay for these services without saving up for them first, (and because these services are often very booked ) they finally get the kids back. One or all the kids may be behind in school from the trauma of being removed and have other emotional problems. Mom and dad may never trust anyone(not even friends or family) and the system for failing them. After all is said and done they PASS the evaluations and tests,etc.. (and still with no proof from the allegations ever given or a chance to prove their innocence) instead of clearing the parents name,they are in some gov file at the dfcs office, with the closed case paper work stating " Abuse Risk lowered enough for children to be returned home" And how is that parent ever going to become a foster mother herself? What if she wants to run a daycare? She has this File on her that my prevent these things because of an investigation that turned into a case from a case worker investigator who thought there was a risk,when there never was,all because a phone call by some one who they will never reveal the name,someone who gave that family hell for half a year by what they did. Some parents who are innocent and done nothing wrong will fight CPS and go to court,spending tens of thousands, or even as high as hundreds of thousands of dollars just to clear there name ,because they afford it and chose not be subjected to taking these evaluations and 'service" as being treated like criminals and some still lose their kids due to getting their perental rights removed for simply "not cooperating" It is their RIGHT to fight in court and not cooperate if they are innocent and want to prove themselves through the COURTS and NOT through DFCS's ways of doing things,yet the gov gives DFCS so much power that unless you have enough money, you may never win against them no matter how innocent you are. Just because CPS works with law enforcement doesn't make them the law,unfortunately it does ,they need to be stopped or at least reformed. Too many peopel refuse to acknowledge this , and others are to afraid to speak out,in fear of retaliation. So with that said, I feel terribly sorry for all those children who get adopted to parents who think they are saving them from homes that are not as nice as their own. Society is brainwashed to think CPS are heros and all the kids come from broken/unstable families. I am especially saddend to know that you can lose your child simply because you don't have a physical address (even if your living in a hotel or with friends until you can get back on your feet) ,or to know that they take newborns from parents who have previously had kids taken way ONLY based on history. There are NEWS storys on these ,and I can provide links to anyone who is interested. Adoptive parents and foster parents are not immune either. It is a corrupt system,it is all about who you know, and how much $ you have. If your lawyer is friends with the dfcs lawyer don't count on him helping you either, he will only take your money. *EDITED TO FIX TYPOS*

Our first foster placement was a almost 5 year old that the bio mom voluntarily placed in foster care. Just for the weekends. It was a strange situation and I'm pretty sure that it wasn't a crisis. The state didn't require anything of her and she got free babysitting. We're in a small town- maybe that's the difference.