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I have a son from a previous relationship who is in the process of being adopted by my husband. We (husband and I) are starting to look around at the possibility of adoption. Although my husband is adopting my son, we still keep in pretty close contact with his bio-dad's family. I send pictures, email, and they talk on the phone from time to time, as well as visit every year or so. Would this be too open for an open adoption? My son seems to thrive with all the love he gets from his papa and daddy. Any thoughts?
Rachael
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Open adoption is about relationships. The amount of contact depends on the individuals involved so one level of openness is great in some situations and another level of openness is better in others. I think the key is to stay open minded and flexible and above all honest about what you are comfortable with in those situations.
lisa
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I am very much an advocate for open adoption. I chose adoption for my son who will be 2 in September. I only have a semi-open relationship with his family and we correspond through our agency, but we have had two visits since his placement. I am trying to develop a more open relationship with his family, but I know that will take time.
If you are serious about wanting an open adoption relationship I would encourage you to learn all you can about it and then decide if it is right for you. I know that openness is scary for a lot of couples wanting to adopt, but the more you know the easier it will be for you to see the benefits.
I think you can already see why an open realtionship would be a good thing from your situation right now. Even though two people choose adoption for their child doesn't mean that they don't love him or her just as much as if they had chosen to parent.
lisa