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Helping Your Adopted Child Understand Adoption
November 29, 2016
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by
Denalee Chapman
Sure, there's no difference to YOU, the adoptive parent, between your adopted and biological children. That doesn't mean your adopted children feel the same way.
1. What are appropriate ways to tell my child s/he is adopted?
Have his siblings tell him
Bring it up at family dinner and make a major event of it
Talk about adoption as you do about birth. Honestly, regularly, comfortably.
Wait until s/he is old enough to understand the difference between biological and adoptive families
2. How should I handle questions about adoption from my child?
Buy a lot of adoption books and look up the answers to the questions asked
Stop what I'm doing and take time to answer honestly and appropriately for his/her age
Distract my child with candy and toys so we don't have to talk about it
Tell him/her we will talk about it when the time is right, then make sure to put it on my calendar
3. How do I educate my child's friends about adoption?
I don't. It's not my job to teach someone else's children.
Every time they're playing together I remind them that my child is adopted and that's ok.
I answer questions if they ask them, but otherwise do not make an issue of it.
I make sure their parents know my child is adopted and ask them to have their children be sensitive.
4. True or False: I should expose my children to media about adoption
True - and then be sure to talk about it with them
False - it will only confuse them
5. True or False: My adopted child's questions will change through the years even if I am completely open from the beginning
True
False
6. How do I explain to my child that his/her birth parent cares, even though we're in a closed adoption?
Share real experiences and feelings from other birth parents
Share the reasons you know regarding placement so your child can understand the reason for placing
Tell your child from day 1 how much his/her birth parents care
All of the above
7. What do I do if my child wants to contact his/her birth parents
Do all I can to facilitate reunion
Assess my child's emotional state and what I know about birth parents, then help if appropriate
Redirect my child's thinking so s/he doesn't get hurt
Secretly contact the birth parents on my own
8. True or False: We should celebrate the child's adoption day as well as his/her birthday
True - it is cause for celebration!
False - it will only confuse my child
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