WHY DID YOU ADOPT ME? Quizzes

1. What is Tom's short & best answer for when your child asks: "Why did you adopt me?"

Evade the question until they're older and can understand

Tell them that you couldn't have kids any other way and adoption was your only choice

Don't lie

Tell the whole story about the birds and the bees and explain that their birth mother had to place

2. According to Tom, Why is a lie (even a tender one) a bad idea when your child asks why you adopted them?

It will kill trust between you because they will detect the lie eventually

One lie leads to another and before you know it, you're never being truthful with your child

This will cause your child to start sneaking around your back to find out the truth

It teaches your child to lie

3. True or False: According to Tom, the best answer for your child's question is WE CHOSE YOU

True

False

4. According to Tom, what two characteristics are most important when answering this question?

Truth and Humor

Truth and Love

Truth and Details

Truth and Empathy

5. What do you do if your child asks questions about fertility but they aren't quite old enough for detailed explanation?

Distract your child and talk about something entirely different

Promise them you'll tell them at a more appropriate time

Tell them that it's not appropriate to talk about sex

None of the above

6. True or False: It's a good idea to talk with your partner (if you have one) about how you will answer the question when it comes up so you're on the same page

True

False

7. True or False: Children are not perceptive enough before the age of 5 to know if you're hiding something

True

False

8. Which of the following is a statement Tom uses to emphasize the meat of this article?

Parents should know better than to lie to any degree.

Teaching your child about adoption from the time they enter the family is a must.

Hiding the truth or outright lying should be avoided at all costs

There is no place for secrets within a loving family.