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Annaleece Merrill

My name is Natasha please kindly respond back to me through my email address (natasharomar225@gmail.com)Thanks
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Annaleece Merrill replied on Amber Jackson's thread "Just placed my baby boy for adoption".
Hi Amber, Know that you are not alone. I have walked in your shoes. I placed my baby girl in October of 2015, and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. Your grief is natural and normal. So is the regret. It's okay to feel the way that you feel. I felt the exact same way for awhile. But please know that it really does get better. It's been two years since I placed, and I can honestly tell you that I'm really happy. The grief never disappears, but it changes. It comes in stages, and lately I've been finding myself in longer and longer stages of acceptance and peace. I do miss her. But she's thriving and happy, and the what-it's don't matter so much anymore because I know she's alright where she's at. There have been times where I've missed her so much and felt like a stranger to her, but there have also been times where I've felt closer to her than anyone. Earlier this week I was visiting her and she was so worried about my chapped lips, so she kissed them all better. Those moments make all the grief and regret and fear worth it. Will the adoptive parents ever really understand your loss? Probably not. No matter how great they are, they haven't walked your path. But you learn to manage that. I love my birth daughter's adoptive parents, and we're good friends now. It hasn't always been easy, but it's been getting better and better. If you feel like you need a visit, you can ask. It doesn't matter what the agency says, they don't own you. I visited my birth daughter earlier than a month and it helped me a lot. But if you don't think it will, or the pictures are too hard, that's okay too. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. If you ever need someone to talk to, or if you're interested in facebook groups or other online support groups, I am more than happy to connect with you. I would also recommend reaching out to your agency and finding out whether they offer post placement therapy. My heart is with you, I ache for you because I understand your loss. You don't have to do this alone.
I was searching online and came across this site, you seemed really active on here and was wondering if we could message so you can help me understand this site a little better.
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Babysitting foster kids
What is the protocol for getting a babysitter when you have foster kids? Do they need to be certified? Are you allowed to do it at all?
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Traveling with foster children
When you are placed with foster children, is it legal to travel with them? If you are going to cross state lines, do you have to get approval first? Would they ever be allowed out of the country? I have heard of foster parents taking the kids on vacations to give them happy memories, but I'm not sure how all that traveling could work out.
Annaleece Merrill replied on Soli Deo Gloria's thread "Visitation Hours in Orange County".
The goal of foster care is reunification whenever possible. Judges who keep that in mind will allow the visitation they feel is most beneficial for the children. If there is any chance that the children could do well with their biological parents, and the parents are following through on their program for reunification, there will likely be a good amount of visitation and potentially reunification. The foster care system isn't perfect, but I think if there have been 8 hours assigned per week, the judge thinks it's in the best interest of the kids.
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