just a little curious..

I am a birthmother of a 7 month old daughter. I have read on the site and several other message boards and there are some things that hurt me.. ive heard some adoptive parents say that they don't mind having an open adoption until the adoption is final, then they want to close it because the child is now theirs. Ive seen some adoptive parents say they feel threatened by birthmother and feel like the birthmother should just stay out of the picture , never visit, and only get pictures and letters every once in awhile. Ive seen some a mother's write about wanting to not give their children any information on their birthparents becuase they would feel sad if they wanted to come in contact with them and they think the child would be selfish for doing so.. Some of these things hurt me so much as a birthmother. I made the ultimate sacrafice of giving my daughter up for adoption, to 2 people I hardly knew. Birthmothers trust the aparents with their childs life. Birthmothers are still mothers..even though my child is not with me, she will always be my child. I love her more than anything in this life. I know a few people from a birthmother support group who told me the aparents closed their open adoption because they thought it was the best thing for their child..they all did this after the adoption was finalized. This hurt me even hearing it.. There are some birthmothers out there who are out of line. It isnt right for a birthmother to control the adoptive parents in how they raise the child, or by trying to get their child back. It hurts me to know their are birthparents like that. I love my adoptive parents and I get scared that they will do the same too me..I never ask much from them, just for pictures and letters.. I guess im just saying that I respect adoptive parents and most birthmothers do...just don't feel threatened by us.. you know how moms feel when their kids are out late and they are wondering if they are ok, and safe, and when they'll finally come home. Birthmothers feel the same way except they know their child will never come home.. sorry for the long rant