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Hi all! We are the new parents of our 11 week old son Lliam . My question is his B-parents have two previous children who are also young. They are parenting these children. When our son is old enough to ask what do we say about his birth family? It is a closed adoption. We know who they are by name but they have requestewd no contact. Any advice is welcome! Thanks
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We have this situation as well with a couple of our children. My advice is....be as honest and up front as possible. It has been our experience, that children do not ask as many questions about their 'roots' as many think they will.
I'd simply say that the birthparents were not able to raise another child....and instead of trying to raise him.....they hoped to find another family that could provide a better home for him.
Believe it or not....having raised two children from infancy already (and all of our 6 children are adopted)........as teens and adults, they never asked these questions. This may be because we have always been totally honest about everything we knew....and the information was commonplace. However, there were some details that were unpleasant, that we did not disclose to one until he was in his teens----even though he did not ask.
Play it by ear....and be honest and up front. Regardless of how the child might feel.....he will always appreciate that you were honest.
Sincerely,
Linny
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