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under 6 months to wait for either a full AA or biracial healthy newborn with little to no alcohol exposure in utero?
We are thinking of using WACAP in Washington and they only place AA-Biracial newborns and were told that the wait would be less than 6 months.
I was soooo excited and then I read a thread here that said the need for afamilies for AA/biracial is kind of exaggerated?
We are an interracial couple, I am CA, and DH is HISP. We have one bio dd, who is of course mixed Hisp/CA. More than anything we just want another child or two and dont care 1 iota what color they are...we have alot of AA friends and most of my friends are in interracial marriages and have mixed children. Plus, my husband is military and with living around any military facility, there is a high population of all races. It just feels "right"..I dont know--what do you all think.
I know patience is a virtue, but I guess this is the spoiled rotten in me "I want my baby now....!!!" Lol... :D :D
Also, I apologize if this is a sensative subject, but how much should we expect to pay for the adoption all together. We have considered going many different routes (international/domestic, attorney, agency, facilitator..etc) and the ranges were anywhere from 4200.00 all the way up to 35000.00
Realisticly, we would like to spend 12K or less. Can it happen? But of course we would be willing to go up a little higher, but to avoid stretching our budgett tooooo much, we'd like to stay under 12K.
Thanks a bunch!
Ronni-27
Wife to John-34
Mom to Hayley,5
Mom to Olivia Grace in Heaven on 3-28-03
Mom to Furbaby Doby my Red Doberman, age 7
You know, it just depends. We've adopted many times, and in waiting for our next baby, the time frame has amazed us AND the attorney. We knew this next baby would 'take longer' because we were requesting only a girl. However, even considering this, the timeframe has taken much, much longer than anyone expected. We have had a few 'close calls'.......were not chosen by a birthmother too..........but after one year, we are STILL waiting. So, we have decided to open our hearts to either gender. (This had been the ONLY time we had ever requested a gender. It will more than likely be our LAST adoption.....and our youngest is a girl.)
For our last baby, we waited only four months from the time we contracted with our attorney (who networked with other agencies). So, you just never know!
Keep in mind, it depends on what each expectant lady is looking for (if she is the one choosing, sometimes the agency chooses if the birthmother desires not to). And each person is unique and looking for different qualities. So, for an agency to say this to you, IS hopeful......but don't count it as 'gospel'.
Good luck to you. I hope your wait IS this short!
Sincerely,
Linny
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We have adopted twice in Indiana. Our first adoption took 5 months (from the time we put in our app. to the time dd was born- we only waited 12 days for a match).
Our second took 7 months (we were on the waiting list for 6 months).
I think its hard to say what is typical. Both times they said it could be anywhere from 6-24 months.
Good luck...
Anything an agency says is a best guess. Our agency said that *most* people average about a year but that things can change if they have more or less potential birth parents looking at profiles. They used to (I think they changed this policy) only accept as many profiles as they felt was reasonable to maintain that average because their feeling was that hopeful adoptive parents had the right to look elsewhere without sinking all of their money into one agency.
See, the thing about adoption timeframes is that what you're trying to do is predict the human heart. While it's certainly possible to make estimates, it's important to remember that people are unpredictable.
An agency that won't make promises is actually a good thing because it shows that they are less likely to be pushy in trying to get women to place.
:)
Dawn
p.s. Our wait from the time our homestudy was complete until Madison came home was about nine months.
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hi,
as others have stated, much depends on whether you have any particulars (gender, age, "race"/ethicity), your agency and whether they do their job well (active or passive-some agencies don't actively advertise, while others do), the feelings of birthparents, the "race"/ethnicity of the paparents, etc. There are many things out of your control, but some are up to you.
As AA parents requesting a child of AA descent, no gender preference, age under 4 months, overall no major respiratory health issues (we have many animals and live in Los Angeles), but willing to examine on a case by case basis, our wait from completion of homestudy to bringing dd home was less than 5 weeks. We were quoted a timeframe of 4-6 months by our facilitator. There is a shortage of AA families in the adoption world, so our wait was extremely short. Our total costs, including facilitator, agency, travel, etc was $18000. Dd was released from the hospital to us, age 2 days, healthy, no drug exposure, prenatal care, fully open adoption.
and bethany does work with non-christian families..
If you're interested in transracial adoption, here's a website you might find interesting:
[url]http://pact.best.vwh.net/press/articles/transracial.html[/url]
LisaCA
I get confused when I hear that there is still a need for families for AA infants. We are an AA family with an approved homestudy. We have been waiting for 6 months and are still hopeful that we will be placed soon. I know there is no set formula but there are moments when I wonder if we are getting any closer. Our caseworker thinks it will take 6-12 months so we may be halfway there. Maybe we should be looking in another state? (We're in Nebraska) But we've already spent quite a bit with this agency. Any advice?
we are in wisconsin, and adopted our aa son from alabama. Our wisconsin agency does adoptions through the southern us. We are getting ready for number 2 right now, and they said, dont submit til you are ready, becasue they have numerous situations, and no families on the waiting list. I cant believe you guys have had ANY wait, because I know that most AA birthmoms would choose an AA couple if one was available. If you want to expand your search, I have some agency names that you can try! pm me if you are interested!
hi,
according to my quick little search, nebraska has a black population of a whopping 4%, which may figure into why you've had to wait. If your agency isn't trying to find bmoms but waits for them to come to the agency, this may also be a factor. Check with your agency and get them to explain themselves. The 6-12 month wait is what we were quoted by our agency which did not search, but waited for bmoms to contact them. we used a facilitator which speeded up the process. If you're interested, pm me and I'll give you the details. You shouldn't be waiting so long for a placement. It may also be that your agency specializes in white or native american placements, and has very few families walking in and asking for AA children. These agencies often turn AA bmoms away, and then gain a reputation for such, leaving bmoms to go to an agency with a better reputation.
LisaCA
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LisaCA-
I'll PM you. I selected our agency because among other things, it had the shortest wait in our area and the training and support is quite good. I don't know where the line is between being impatient and not being with the right agency. How do you know the difference?
Our agency told us the average for AA/Biracial is under 6 mo. but to be prepared as soon as we sign. This is in TX. We are paying $12,000 and that includes ALL bmother expenses and the attorney to do TPR. Travel is extra.
Tracey