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Originally Posted By Sgt. TorresI am stationed in the Army with my family in Panama. My 16 year old daughter is pregnant by a Panamanian man that is 25 years old. This guy wants to keep the child here with his family, I think as a way to try to get my daughter to stay with him here, and ultimately to get himself U. S. citizenship. Over my dead body!Besides wanting to wring the neck of this guy, I wonder it it would be possible for this child to be adopted to a couple in the United States? Can this be done? If so, how?
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Originally Posted By JenniferThe military is not a lot of help with adoption resources. We are an Army family who asked if there was any such org to help us find people in exactly your situation and we were told no such org existed. Most people (birthmothers included) do not understand milotary life and are scared away from selecting us as adoptive parents. Ask your daughter's doctor what the options are for y'all. He may not know right off the bat, but he can find out what can be done. Best of luck to your family. Very sincerely, Jennifer Horton
Originally Posted By bm JamieDoes the bmother want to place her child for adoption ????????? This should be her decision.She should be pressured by NO ONE to make this decision & that includes the babys grandparents.She will live with this dicision for the rest of her life.She will be the one to suffer for this.Sounds like a personal problem between you & the father.I say if this birth father wants to be a part of his childs life then he should be aloud to.
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Originally Posted By ChrisThe first thing I would do would be to send my daughter to the US to stay with family. If there is any problems with custody I would believe that the child being born on US soil would be a benefit. Also, if possible try to list the father as unknown and get a closed adoption. Without DNA - it would be hard to get a closed adoption file opened by the potential father from overseas. Unfortunately you would have no contact with the adoptive family and would just have to trust that the child ended up in a good home. But if the child is facing a particularly harsh home - it might be option for your daughter
Originally Posted By MaryI don't think that a closed adoption is the best decision. While the child does need a safe and stable home, your daughter is going to have to heal emotionally from the experience if she chooses adoption, and just forgetting about it and not hearing anything about her child can be very painful and detramental.
Originally Posted By AlexI could not disagree more with this statement. The parents of the pregnant "girl" (only sixteen) should be the ones to make this decision. If one of my daughters were in the very same situation, their desire would not even come into play. That decision would be 100% that of her mother and me.
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