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Originally Posted By Claire
I was adopted in Kentucky in 1969. I was born in 1966 I am told in Kentucky also. There was some story that included Ohio, if this may be where my birthmother gave birth to me, I do not know. I was a hard to place adopted African-American who is 1/2 White although I was recognized as a Black woman, very light skin. I lived with a Black foster family for my first 2 1/2 years. I have tried to find my birthmother using the Commonwealth of Kentucky adoption resources in Frankfort, Ky. I was told my birthmother did not wish to know of my whereabouts. Since she had some college I am told at the time of my birth and although she gave me my first name, Trudy, I am assume she had begun a new life and did not wish to know of me. I am also told I cannot find out any information about the woman who raised me for my first 2 1/2 years. When I was adopted my family was given several pages of information about my birthmother, her family and the family history of my birthfather who did not know of my birth. For this reason I cannot understand why other family names and personal information is unavailable or why I cannot find other means to contact my birthmother. Do you know how any of this information can be contested with the state of Kentucky or if there are other means of finding birth parents? Thank you. Claire Tarpey
Claire,
I don't know if you ever received any answer to this question or if you have found an answer on your own. If not however, please go to the following link and it may help you.
[url]http://www.aborn.org/State/NotAnswered/Kentucky.html[/url]
Roberta
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Originally posted by njadoptee
Claire,
I don't know if you ever received any answer to this question or if you have found an answer on your own. If not however, please go to the following link and it may help you.
[url]http://www.aborn.org/State/NotAnswered/Kentucky.html[/url]
Roberta
:) :) Replying to post: Thank you Roberta. It has been about a year now and a 1/2 sibling (brother) contacted me. He recognized his birth certificate stated he was not the first born child. I am glad I did not have to deal directly with the courts. It is wonderful to find out the details of the family I never knew.
Claire,
I am the woman who gave birth to you. I chose what I thought would be best for you and am still angry with Eric for seeking you out. He is a silly man and has caused severe damage to our family. My error was in being truthful on his birth certificate.....well, live and learn.
When I gave you up for adoption it was a choice between having you killed in the womb or finding people who could love you. I arranged for; and, was told that you were adopted from the hospital and I never saw you. I was medicated during the entire birth process; so, I never felt you either. I named you because the hospital insisited that I do so....Trudy was the first name which popped into my head.
I don't know of anything that I could tell you which would make you feel any better about being adopted; except, I chose life for you instead of death.....only you can decide which was better.
If you need to speak with me for some sort of closure you may get my contact information from Eric.
Other
Claire,
I am the woman who gave birth to you. I chose what I thought would be best for you and am still angry with Eric for seeking you out. He is a silly man and has caused severe damage to our family. My error was in being truthful on his birth certificate.....well, live and learn.
When I gave you up for adoption it was a choice between having you killed in the womb or finding people who could love you. I arranged for; and, was told that you were adopted from the hospital and I never saw you. I was medicated during the entire birth process; so, I never felt you either. I named you because the hospital insisited that I do so....Trudy was the first name which popped into my head.
I don't know of anything that I could tell you which would make you feel any better about being adopted; except, I chose life for you instead of death.....only you can decide which was better.
If you need to speak with me for some sort of closure you may get my contact information from Eric.
Hello Sandra:
I am glad you chose to respond to someone, or this message board. Correct, I did not seek you out before Eric found out about me but I did attempt to contact you many years ago and you denied the state's efforts for reconciliation. Eric has told me a lot about you. I have not caused your family problems; he has been very honest and I have not interacted with him unless he has initiated interaction. Finally, I do not care to speak with you, personally. You appear similar in your attitude to your daughter, Jennifer. If you do not know enough to know the extent biological parents affect their children then that is sad. There is no closure necessary for me, and I would not believe anything you stated as the truth with regards to 38 years ago at this point. When you denied contact with me, it was your choice. I am not to blame for the numerous choices you have made. I thought I would wish to speak with you, but I am not responsible for your mistakes with YOUR family. I am glad to know that I was willingly given away, Eric has told me other renditions. I knew this partially from letters from a social worker. If Eric chooses not to contact me as well, that is fine. In fact he appeared to be acting over responsibly, maybe thinking in your best interest but now that is a moot point. Take care, you were granted a long life. Claire
None of this makes any sense to me. I never intended to hurt anyone. I certainly haven't destroyed my family, unless you count Mom not talking to me for a few months. Claire, you know I love you. Mom, I love you too. But perhaps it's best that never the twain shall meet.
Eric
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Claire
I believe you can petetion the courts to open your file if there is a medical necessity. I know that I may do this to find out information as I was Adopted in Ky. born in Ohio. Very similiar case to you. good luck.
tracey