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Originally Posted By over40momMy husband and I are 46 and 48. We have a naturalborn son who is four years old. Really lucky inthat pregnancy, but can not get pregnant again.What are the chances that a birthmom would choseus to adopt her baby? What are some experiencesthat an over 40 couple has experienced? Thanks for any insight.
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Originally Posted By CarolineHello, I am 49 and hubby is 43, we are just embarking on the adoption journey. I wonder if the method or person/agency/lawyer you pick can be in your favor when being older?? Do some work with older birth moms for instance?? We have no kids and have been married 16 years, have tons of love and energy and feel so ripe and ready for a baby now!! Godd luck to all.
Originally Posted By stephCaroline, Some agencies are fine with older moms. The agency we're working with does open adoptions, so the birthmom picks and they've had plenty of older adoptive moms. If you're interested they're at openadopt.com. Good luck! P.S. I'm 42, hubby 43 (not that either of those are old!)
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Originally Posted By bm JamiePersonally I was looking for an older couple to raise my bson. His parents are in their early 40's. I over looked all of the younger couples portfolios when choosing his parents.To me an older couple felt more secure & stable.They have been waiting a long time for that little son & the marraige seemed concrete.
Originally Posted By TamarLee - Definitely go for international adoption. You can adopt an infant most places in the world at 45 or 46. No waiting around for a bmom to pick you, and to possibly change her mind after the birth. You are in the driver's seat with international, though the process is not without its headaches. My husband and I adopted a 2 month old from e. europe when I was 40 and he was 48. As long as one parent is under 48 or so, you are eligible to adopt a baby from any number of countries. Good luck!
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Originally Posted By MissyYes, you can adopt Internationally but the cost is enormous. I am 57 and my husband is 50 and we are in the middle of adopting from the Ukraine. In the States you can adopt without an agency, try contacting cathy@ukrainianangels.org, she can help you. Cathy has adopted several children all on her own. We are now going to try fostering and then adopting that way, which will cost next to nothing. Maybe you need to think of going this way too. All the best. So many children out there that need a mommy and daddy and WE cannot seem to connect to find that special little one.
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Originally Posted By TaraSo glad to see someone in our age range! I am 52 and husband is 43, BUT he has rheumatoid arthritis (wears out fast) and I have diabetes and had open-heart surgery (2 by-passes) last year. Incredibly I have passed the medical. Our concerns are really whether we will have the energy for a teenager later on. We have been approved for Viet Nam, maybe the only country that will take us. And yes, the cost is hi, but as of next year, 2002, you might be eligible for a $10,000 tax credit if you are in right tax bracket. Check out this website for that info.