15 Jan 1969, Oakland... Thank you.

I understand some have filled out a consent form with their agency? Is this a common practice?

What a lovely message to your birthmom. She'll be very lucky to read it.

Irony is definately where you find it. My birth mother too was pregnant in 67-68 while attending a Cal State University.

I have read of some who leave letters with the agency that would permit release of their information. Have any of you done this? Are these a potential link to scammers>? Do they become public record? Is there even such a thing? Thanks in advance

lemonadebuddah, Have you spoken to her?

what a beautiful letter to your mother. I do hope she comes across it. Most birthparents haven't filled out consent - often because they aren't aware of the possibility or need to do it. My mother left a letter with the agency - I still can't get the agency to release it to me even though I have met both of my birth parents. If that doesn't show the idiocy of some laws, I don't know what does. Contacting the state, county, or agency is really a great first step. good luck!

Thank you, it is there if she chooses to look. My birthday is Sunday. I wonder if she remembers the date?

[FONT="Comic Sans MS"]It was 40 years ago today that she choose to give me the greatest gift a human can give another... life. Not content to give me life.... she allowed me to go to a family who could give me the life she could not.

She did not just give me life, but let me live it.

Thank you. :)[/FONT]

Happy Birthday! By the way, California is one of the easier states in which to find a birthmother if you should choose to do so, but fairly difficult to find a birth child. If you'd like help, I can help you. Search my posts. I'm not a scammer.

Beth, I had contacted you some time ago. I wonder if you ever found anything? Thanks,

I have had 3 search angels now help me in various ways... well, I sent info to them. Is there significance to the fact that they never seem to get back to me after looking into things>? Does it indicate something about the case? Anyone have any insight?

I wonder if this has changed since I asked? Does anyone know if such an agency exists? If so, where could I reach them? Thanks,

After a wait of a few months, I received a letter from Children's Home Society of California this evening. I am surprised by the powerful effect the information contained has on me. I am thankful for my life, I have posted messages in another thread here for over 10 years... My head is spinning at the moment, I would appreciate any guidance anyone might have for me as to how I might procede. Specifically, a search angel or direction on what next steps I might take. I did file a consent for contact at the same time I placed my request. No one has ever looked for me, or they have no forms on file. Thank you, any reply would be a great kindness right now.

I'm not a good one with help... but I wanted you to know I read your post. I really like your letter, btw. I would love to have received a letter like that from my son. I found my son through the registry on this site. (His info was out of date, but I had a name!) I hope your search has a positive outcome soon. Just a note: many of us we told we had no right to search because we gave up all "rights" to our children when we placed them.

It is a difficult thing, this quest. I have posted here for over a decade now, and things are just now coming together for me. The main thread i have posted to is in the "Thanks for Life" forum here. With my recent activities in searching i have really had to test and try that positionŅ. "What do i seek?" I have believed for a long time the answer was "to say thank you". Now that I am actually moving forward with this, i am more sure of that then I ever have been. So often I talk to adult adoptees and they share that they are haunted, or even feel bound by the idea that they were 'abandoned'. I don't feel this way. I feel it is much more true for me, that I was "freed". The more I learn, the more I believe that a young woman was faced with some very difficult choices and she did the very best thing she could think to do. Like Moses in a basket, I floated into the arms of a set of parents who were able to give me an amazing life and to realize (still in progress!) the things I am to do. My search has been much more about what I want to give back, then what I "need". It has been simply amazing to learn some of the information I have. I was apparently concieved in the spring by a young couple who cared for each other. Just that bit of information is amazing to me. I am sharing all of this here in the "search" forum to provide encouragement for others. I hope that you can be clear on what you wantŅ I hope that the journey of discovery helps you find little bits of information that you are able to frame in positive ways. Peace to all on their journey!