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Originally Posted By LisaI have just recently adopted a four year old and he does not want anything to do with me. His previous parents were very mean and abusive and I know the mother did a lot of the abusing. It hurts to continually have a child say I don't like you mom. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks Lisa
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Originally Posted By SheilaMy son was almost 2 when he came to live with us and like your situation he did not want anything to do with me (but instantly bonded with my husband). We were told that our son had been abused and neglected, mostly by his birth mother. One thing I noticed is that he really seemed to not like women in general - not just me. Don't force yourself on him but give him some space and help him to realize that although others have hurt him you are not one of them. Remember trust has to be earned and believe me love will follow. I tried to keep in mind that my son was probably not angry at me but I was there so I got the brunt of it. I know it is soooo hard but have patience, time can heal. It took several months but I will never forget the first time my son's eyes lit up, his arms flew open and he ran into my arms yelling "Mommy". He still tends to take to men better but he now hugs, kisses and loves all the women in his life (Grandma, Aunts, and Nieces) I wish you a lot of love and happiness. If you need to talk you can write me at samspy92@hotmail.com
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Originally Posted By samantha John amommyHe was 9 days old when we brought him home. For ex. My son was at his grandmothers home. My sis-in-law was trying to calm him, no luck. Then my mom-in-law tried, no luck. When I walkedinthe room & picked him up, he stopped crying & immediatly calmed to sleep. They begin to pick up your smell & know mom.