Rape(PLEASE READ)

She is very right cause im bout to turn 17 and i have the choice to have an abortion. But i dont want to have it because i took the time to lay down and have sex so i should take the time to take care of this baby in me. Im only 3weesk pregnant i was scared at first but now im actually happy cause i ahve family members supporting. My family and the baby's daddy and he is willing to be in the baby's life i hope its a boy tho.

OP, Regardless of how old you are, this is one situation that never gets easier to handle. Just talking about it isn't easy to do let alone live through it. So don't feel like its just because you're 15. 80 year old have a hard time with this subject! Everyone has their opinions about what someone should or shouldn't do in this situation, but in reality, only a very small minority of the populations give birth to children they conceived as a result of rape. More people spend time arguing this hypothetical situation that's not likely to happen than a more common life-changing situation that is likely to happen, like drunk driving. How many times has the average driver gotten behind the wheel after consuming alcohol? Which situation is more likely to happen?

I just realized that I'd replied to the original post back in 2004 - wow. Anyway - - I receive a lot of flack for being an adoptee that is pro-choice. I see where people are coming from when they express shock that I was "given life" and adopted but still say that I am pro-choice. Nonetheless, I feel strongly about my opinion regarding abortion...I figure that there are other pro-choice adoptees who have experienced the same judgment.

First and foremost, I'm on this site trying to learn more so that my current husband can adopt my daughter. I did not expect to get into any discussions such as this, but it really hits home to me. My daughter is going to be 2 in a couple of months, and my husband has been in her life pretty much from the start. She came about as the result of a traumatic sexual assault from an ex. I resent that man to this day, and had many reasons to even before he attacked me. Kind of a double whammy. That being said, we both love my daughter beyond words despite how she came about. I would be lying if I said I hadn't thought about aborting her, but I've faced pregnancy under hard circumstance before. My first child, a son, now 6 years old, was born 2 weeks after my 17th birthday. Being only 16 when I was pregnant, I was urged to abort by my father, but never considered it an option. I was determined be a responsible parent, and to love that child, and to work hard to provide for him. I did just that, I finished school, earned a bachelor of arts, and am soon applying for grad school. I'm now 23, I've a wonderful son, a beautiful daughter, and amazing husband, and a precious newborn boy(haha, our 3rd child that we just had was actually planned). Families like ours don't often come about, I realize this. I realize many teen moms don't go on to finish high school or college when they decide to keep their babies. But not everyone possesses the same tenacity or resources, and everyone has a different sense of responsibility at any age and is dealt a different circumstance. Not every one handles the same situation the same way. I've been the young scared teen mom, as an adult I've been the victim of a cruel act resulting in an unplanned pregnancy. I've faced the decision to abort or to adopt in two different circumstances both with valid reasons to do either, and I've considered both options. I'm glad I made the decision to keep my children, but what's right for one person isn't right for the next, and it's all a very very personal decision. I don't think that in the circumstance of rape that there is a right or a wrong answer on what to do, I believe it's whatever is right for the victim.

But Nicole I agree. I too am an adult adoptee and I'm Pro-Choice, I myself do NOT believe in abortion is right for me, but I also believe woman have a right to chose what they do with their bodies, I have my limits on how far along a pregnancy should be before abortion is out of the question, but that's a whole different debate lol

Rachel -and that's precisely what being pro-choice is all about; understanding that a woman should have the choice even if she would never consider abortion. I had a conversation with a co-worker this morning, in fact, about this very thing - - I had posted a link to a National Adoption Awareness Month/Nat'l Adoption Day website on my Facebook account, and this co-worker asked me "Oh, but aren't you pro-choice?" [she only knows this because now and again we work with politicians, supporting various aspects of their campaigns - trust me, it's terribly frustrating and annoying to do anything election-related this time of year, especially in NYS where all of our candidates are out of their minds :woohoo:]. I told her that yes, I am pro-choice, but what does that have to do with my National Adoption Month post? She just looked at me like she was SO confused, and I said [in an effort to end the conversation] "They're really two different topics of discussion, and being pro-choice is something that I won't discuss, but if you're wondering about National Adoption Month - THAT I will talk about at work! haha. I think that people get confused when they find out I am an adoptee and pro-choice because they don't understand adoption. Regardless, I know better than to discuss politics and religion in the workplace, especially MY workplace, where the majority are young and VERY liberal [and I am somewhere in the middle]. However, if people want to ask me about National Adoption Month - - I'm always happy to discuss :dance:

Shame on me, as an adoptee this is my 1st year trying to involve myself with Adoption Awareness Month, and you know what, i'm darn proud to be better educated on some adoption laws, and still learning a lot from all sides of the triad, Just posted my 1st FB stauts about anything adoption related, I think its time to educate, and to finally feel like i'm not hiding my struggle, search, and acceptance :clap: Sorry super proud of myself today lol!

Thanks for realizing that rape babies have no choice in the matter and never did anything wrong. My mother knew that but my grandmother wanted her to abort me. I am so very grateful to my birth mother and my adopted parents for my life. Abortion never unrapes a woman either. I am gathering as many people like myself and my birth mother or adopted parents to make a statement to the world that we don't deserve to die for the crime of our fathers. We are literally targeted for death and an excuse for abortion (RoevWade) If anyone has a story please contact me. This will save other lives and more adoptions too. God bless all the parents.

I was conceived when 8 men raped my mother. She is grateful for my life NOT the rape. I love God with all my heart and have grown children that do also. I have grandchildren too. We do NOT have to choose to be like anyone. Most of the rape conceived people that I personally know love God with all their hearts and know that man does not create life. They are just the recipients. No one wants to die for the crime of their father and neither do I. We don't kill the rapist or kill other people because they have bad parents do we??

I would hate to think that you advocate the killing of infants that have criminal parents.Hitler killed for genetic reasons! I am a Christian minister and my son is also an ordained minister. I believe that we are all created in the image of God and that no man can "create" another human. The rapist isn't killed if he is caught so why kill the baby? There have been women who have stated (my mother included) that giving birth helped them make a horrible situation into something incredible. I was half my mother's child too and she gave birth to a baby not a rapist. As an international speaker I have helped people realize the truth about rape conception. I spoke at Harvard and even there I saw hearts and brilliant minds changed.No one really thinks about the pain the mother goes through in adding to this horror by killing another human.She then has the pain of both rape and murder. Some women have gone so far as to say they would have preferred to be raped again instead of having an abortion! What does that tell you? They say that their family and friends pushed them to do it. My own grandmother wanted me dead while my mother did not. My mother is a hero as well as my adopted parents. My adopted parents did not think they got a demon for a child or anything less than human. We are not helping women by pushing them to abort. Some have become sterile after abortion. Is that fair to them? I know it's complicated on the surface but being a hero who saves a life is so much better all the way around instead of killing an innocent child. Stop RAPE not the heartbeat of an innocent child. God bless you [url=http://www.judamyers.com]Juda Myers conceived in rape,Pro life speaker,forgiveness teacher,singer/songwriter,author,hope,news and life[/url] (read all the "other conceived in rape stories)

I think there is an opinion of many in the pro-life camp that if you are pro-choice, you are automatically pro-baby-killing. I'm not. I thing that abortion is something I could never do, but I also think that it's not for me to tell others what they should do. And my being an adoptive mother has absolutely nothing to do with my opinion on abortion.

You are such an insightful young woman, and seem to be very intelligent..I am glad you are so thoughtfull on this and many other matters, I am sure. I was 17 and was raped by two unknown men in Denver in 1965. Abortion was not an option in those years, so I carried the baby to term in an unwed mothers home, and gave him up to adoption 3 days later. I held him in my arms and cried. My mother didn't believe my story, and was no support of any kind...Anyway..Long story short. My son and I united through pure luck when he was 27. When the question of his father came up, I thought for a minute (I had never thought of what to say before), took a deep breath, and with great love and empathy for his feelings, told him the truth. We are very tight friends now, and he calls me Mom. He has never mentioned his father again, but did say, it didn't matter. He loves me anyway, and is gratefull that he was adopted..So, it works itself out. THIS TIME ANYWAY. Good luck in your future.

I just finished a video with 4 women. One is an abortion survivor another is one of 8 children conceived in incest, another is a rape child and another was raped and gave birth to a son. For too long we've allowed society to speak for us. (I was conceived in an 8 man rape) Now the voices of those silenced in shame will be heard. Women don't hate their children conceived in rape and those of us conceived that way are grateful to have our lives. We shouldn't be targeted for death based on how we were conceived. And women shouldn't be shamed -the rapist should be. Please share this video with as many people. I was adopted and so was Patricia who spoke on the video. Women who give birth to rape children are heroes and so are the adoptive parents. [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_rLa2fBoBw]YouTube - Voices of Exceptions[/url] juda myers [url=http://www.choices4life.org]Choices4Life | Dedicated to restoring honor and dignity to women and children of rape conception[/url] (restoring honor and dignity) [url]www.yahoogroups.com/AssaultConception/join[/url] (support for those who have rape conception stories)

You sound so rational. I am so glad that you realize that you have a baby depending on you to survive. Adoption is a great option but if you feel you and the baby's father can raise the child then I wish you all the best.Know that if you do place your child in the arms of a couple to raise you are still the hero!!juda

I'm closing this due to how old it is and the fact that there's so many replies for newbies to wade through. The new members in need can certainly begin a new thread should they need to do so. Meaning, it's not the topic or support for those in need that I'm closing.