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Hi:
I have a question for all of the single working moms out there that has more than 1 child. I have a two year old and I have the thoughts running through my head of updating my homestudy, profile etc and starting the process for number 2. My question is this, am I crazy? At times it is so hard with 1, so how do you cope with 2, or do you just Do It....?
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when my son was just 2 (i mean the day after he turned 2). his 9 month old bio half sister came to live with us as a foster to adopt placement. i was not ready to parent 2 children that were 15 months apart. after the first week i asked that she be moved to another foster/adopt home. well, they took so long to find a new home, i had time to adjust and we all got on a schedule and things worked out. in the end, her bmom turned things around and was able to parent her (she returned home after 11 months of living with us). but, it taught me i could handle 2. of course it is harder, but it was also nice when the 2 could play together and i did not have to do so much "entertaining". i am going to start accepting babies again at the end of the summer. my son will be almost 3.5 years old and much better prepared for an addition. good luch with adoptin #2
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Hi,
I am a single parent of three children. When I decided my oldest had to have a sibling, I tried very hard to come up with "good" reasons. I could only come up with: I WANT ANOTHER CHILD!. So I prayed a lot and dove into the process. Along the way I had an overwhelming feeling that I was going to get two children. I looked up and told God, "NO." I couldn't handle three children. Well I changed my mind and two weeks after bringing my 13 month old son home, I found out that he had a brand new half sister. It took 4 months to get her, but I was ready. It wasn't always easy, the youngest is extreemly active, but I love them all and have never regreted adopting three children. Pray if you believe, and listen for your answer. (I really have the desire for one more, but the answer seems to be "NO" for now.) Good luck!
Hi!
Although I'm not currently single I have most always been... And yes you just do it. My kids are older now but the older one usually always helped with the younger. I think that's normal.
No matter how hectic its been it was always 'normal' for us. you get used to driving for 45 minutes BEFORE you commute to work, etc etc.
I used to think it was hard and then I had two. having two is not twice as hard as having one. It's only about 1/4th more work (well depends on the age and situations).
Maia
Thanks to all that responded, and I have been praying on it so I am going to take one day at a time, just like I did prior to adopting my son. I know if it is meant to be it will be. I think I will wait until my son is 2 and 1/2 until I start the process with an agency again. But I am almost positive that I will attempt to adopt a second child. Thanks Again Everyone and have fun with your children...
Just wanted to update all, I have prayed alot about this since my last post and just yesteray afternoon I received a call from the adoption attorney that I used and he was wanting to know if I was ready to adopt again and asked for an updated profile, seems he has two birthmothers in mind that are looking for single parent homes. I know this is still a long shot and I am trying not to make too much of it, but I am taking it as my sign to go ahead and try for number 2, wish me luck.
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how exciting, i am just starting a private domestic adoption through an agency. i know the wait could be long, but i don't think my son is ready to go the foster care route again.
can you pm (or post here if you feel comfortable) some of what you have included in your expectant parent letter and profile, as a single person, what did you high light?
congrats on your new journey, may it be stress free for both of us.
Its official, I am matched with a birthmom due in March with a baby girl. I am so excited, and scared at the same time. My son will be 2 and 1/2 and even though I know I will have my hands full, I also know there will be twice as much love and can't wait to get started. Things really do happen for a reason and I guess my prayers have been answered. I will keep in touch.
Two is easier than one. With one child, he/she is relying on the parent for entertainment as well as care and nuturing. Add a sibling and it creates an in-home opportunity for the children to play together. The only drawback is when you are involved in something with one child, such as homework, the other one may feel left out. With four boys, I don't have either problem anymore. Someone is always available to play.
Sam
Congratulations!!
I am enjoying raising my full house. They are 7, 3, and 2. The one piece of advice that I can give you is "GET GOOD DAYCARE". I started out with a church daycare and didn't like it (they didn't seem to have common sense). I soon got a nanny (best winter I've had so far). She moved out of state to be closer to her grandchildren. Now they are in three different places, every one excellent! They "baby" illnesses seem to be diminshing and I am not so tired now that I don't have to make all those bottles and carry the baby seat around all morning. It takes 45-50 minutes for me to get to work now, but I'm used to it and so are the kids. It's really only that first winter that I found very difficult.
Good Luck!!
Moroka
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nawlins mom, i sent you a pm but just wanted to say, i am still thinking of you. hope you come back soon.
on my 2nd adoption as a single parent, i will be getting a 7week old baby friday night. she is foster/adopt, but it should???? go to tpr pretty quickly. i can't wait to find out more about her!
Mckenna,
How exciting, congradulations you must be thrilled and a girl to boot. How lucky she is to have found you. I am trying not to obsess over the failed match, I am now fighting very hard with the facilitator that I feel lead me on to get my money back so now I am just mad. I still think about the baby everyday and have heard thru an email the birthmother sent to the agency that she is naming her Elizabeth, the middle name I was contemplating. Anyway I have gone back to the attorney here in New Orleans and I will just give it my one year dead line and if nothing happens I will be happy parenting my little man. Again, thanks for your thoughts and I am so HAPPY for you and your son, have fun and I hope TPR happens very soon. Please keep me updated.
Oh by the way, what is her name?
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