Can anyone Help??

Call your local Dyfus agent and ask them what you have to do. Hey it is worth a shot, maybe they can help you get on your way.

To report an adult for neglecting or abusing a child, call your local police department of Department of Human Services (it may be Youth Services, Child Services, Family Servcies - the name varies in different areas). There may also be a another number in your community specifically for reporting child abuse - it should be listed in the cover of your phone book if there is, or at least in the government pages. Then child services would get involved, and if the child abuse/neglect is actually occuring, the child may be removed from that home. Most states prefer to place the child with relatives than in a stranger's foster home, and since you are the legal sister of the child, you have a chance of having her placed with you. (Assuming you're an adult, have stable housing, etc) Even if the child does not get placed with you right away, the child would be away from the abuse, and that's a step in the right direction. I am not aware of any cases where the birthmother has been able to regain her child because she is "better" for the child. The only overturned adoption cases I'm aware of involved fraud on the part of the adoptive parents in obtaining the birth parents' signatures on the agreement.

Ok thanks guys but here is the problem My mother is bi polar and I was raisedwith extreem mood swings so I did not learn to express myself in a healthy way until I was 23 or so... Now during the adoption process her lawyer and her brainwashed me into things that were not true such as it was too late after I signed the papers and it was not after all.. My son is 6 years old and has an eating disorder which he would never have if he lived with me and she spanks him and yells at him and he is learning all those things that I grew up in and it scares me... On top of it all she is now telling me she is going to raise him to learn what a ***** I am and that I tried to kill him and all this other bologna... I do not know what to do this child is going to be scared What if I located his father does anyone know if that would help or hurt me??? Thanks again

In MY opinion locating the father may do more harm then good. What happens if he decides neither you or your mom should raise him then what? BEST thing you can do is consult a Lawyer in your area, besides the first consulation is normally Free. Good Luck !!!

If you can actually PROVE to a judge that you were lied to by the adopting parent in order to get your signature or in order to keep you from revoking your consent, then it is possible that the judge would overturn the order of adoption. But only *possible* that would happen. Judges do not overturn adoption orders lightly. Nor do they decide between a birth parent and an adoptive parent. They go with legally signed documents (when they exist) and with the laws as they are written. Simply spanking, yelling, and lying to a child are not considered abusive acts. The child having an eating disorder is not going to be an issue either, because you cannot prove it was caused by enviornment rather than genetics. If you truly believe there is abuse, as defined by your state's laws, then calling your child abuse hotline is still a good answer, and possibly your only one. Finding the birth father of the child will make no difference. He'll be in the same situation as you. If he was lied to as well, he can contest the adoption, too, but he would also have the burden of having to PROVE it, not just claim it. I'm terribly sorry that the child is being raised in such a way. I don't think it's the way to raise a child at all. And it's certainly not something you can watch happeining to the child you gave birth to without trying to intervene. But getting the adoption overturned is a long shot. If you choose to attempt it, you'll definately need a lawyer experienced with adoption issues in your area. Find one and put the entire situation before him/her and see what can be done. In the meantime, please visit the Birth Parents' sections of this site. Perhaps you can find others in similar situations who can help you with your feelings of anger and frustration. It helps to talk to those who understand even if they can't help legally.

The biggest problem here is I have called every lawyer (it feels like) to try and help me and they all say they do not have the time for such a case or they say it is going to cost a lot of money!!! I am like an Erin Brockovich without a lawyer so I need to know how to put together my own legal papers to try to prove they brainwashed me into signing.... I would rather fight and lose than to have the disgrace of having to tell him someday that I did nothing Reggie