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I'm drawn to Eastern European adoption. I was looking at some Russian photo-listings and saw some kids between, say, 13 and 16.
[Isn't it correct you can't adopt kids from other countries into the US after they pass 16, unless they're part of a sibling groups with younger kids in it?]
Anyway, these kids seemed bright and all, and some even wanted to go to college, but...
1) I can't afford a Russian adoption, since they sound SO expensive, or really any adoption right now, as I'm out of work and have no credit and no savings left. And I've never had a really good income for that matter. (Though from what I've read about Russian orphanages the kids would probably think I live like a sultan.) Tax credits wouldn't help me much, as I'd have to have the money up front first anyway, THEN get re-imbursed. So I'm just kind of studying up on the subject for now, thinking this may never happen. And people in other threads on this site say I should concentrate on getting familiar with kids first, doing baby-sitting or something like that, since I have little background with kids. And that advice just discouraged me more.
2) I worry what will happen to these kids who are getting close to what in the US would be high school graduation. I don't think I could have the money together or paperwork and processing done before some of them are kicked out of their orphanages and onto the street, which I would think will pretty much ruin their chances in life. Time seems a real problem with older kids. I've heard most of the options a kid has when tossed out of a Russian orphanage are homelessness, prostitution, suicide, or maybe a rough stint in the military. What a lousy set of options!
3) I've read some of these profiles of older kids, kids who would be ideally taking college prep work. But if they are that old, say, mid- to late-teens, wouldn't it be really difficult for them to pick up the language to the level they'd need in an American college?
I was reading about one boy, 15 or 16. Has all sorts of scientific and mathematical abilities that'd get him a great career. I'd consider adopting him if I had the money and there was time. He has no one to get him into for college, and will presumably be out on the street soon, yet at the same time it looks like time is running out for him to be adopted into the US. Seems like he's gonna lose out either way. What a shame brains and talent like that will be lost.
I've read about kids who've dreamed all their lives to have a bike or a computer or something like that that would be so minor to most Americans. Gee, I think how many of those sorts of items I've bought, worn out, and tossed over the years.
Even if I couldn't help any of these kids, I wish there was some way I could find out what happens to them.
It's all just so d#%n grim.
Any thoughts, anybody?
About the pity the world needs. Yes those poor children. There is lots of hope for people with a big heart like yourself. There are agency that have Promise children now most but not all of these children are older, some special needs, or sibling groups. This agency offers incentive programs that in you sitiuation with the exception of no job (maybe you have one now) but anyway they will loan the money for a 3 yr. period of no interest Wonderful Idea!! They are out of Washington. You may want to take a look at that. May God bless you in so many ways and keep your chin up it can happen for you if its Gods will! :-)
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...Did you know that roughly 70,000 orphans commit suicide in countries formally belonging to the USSR? ...After 'graduation' they have no where to go; and you're right--- it's almost impossible to adopt them when they are in their mid-teens and at their most vulnerable.
I know several Russian-American families, however, who have 'sponsored' kids like these. It's not legal (or illegal), but what they do is contact willing friends in Russia who are interested in adopting/fostering a child but cannot afford it. They send money and packages to the host-family, who in turn 'adopt' the child into their family after the child leaves the orphanage. The child is put through school, given a proper education, and ultimately given a chance at life.