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Hey, all. I just wanted to let you know that our attorney was able to get a referral from the DNA director last Friday. I don't think it was an "official" referral, because the child didn't match our request letter at all.
We had requested a girl or siblings (with at least one girl), infant to 8 years old, any race, and any TREATABLE medical condition. The "referral" was for a 2-year-old boy who likely has Down's Syndrome and an unformed right ear. He's a gorgeous little boy, and we know that his birth defect could be corrected surgically, but we weren't sure if he would ever have hearing in that ear. But mainly our concern was about the Down's Syndrome, so we had to reject the referral. Happily there is a French family that wants to adopt him, though. :)
Now we're afraid that we won't get another referral from the DNA. Ugh....(Kind of like "beggars can't be choosey" or something.)
But in the meantime, we'll find out Oct. 28 if we were chosen to adopt the two sisters from Oregon that we first inquired about in August!!! We're so excited! They are darling little African American girls, 6 and 2 years old. We're "competing" against two other families, so it's hard to tell how we'll appear in comparison. Their social worker did say that we seem to have lots of resources and a great support system to help us, so we're keeping our fingers crossed.
Good luck to everyone, and again, I'm so glad Rosa is finally home!!!
Rebecca
P.S. We would also get only "temporary custody" of the girls for several months before the adoption is complete. I suppose that is the healthiest thing for everyone.
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We are pulling for you with the adoption of the little girls. The process seems to be emotional regardless of the country you pick.
I am amazed that your referral out of Panama was not anything close to what you were asking for. I am so sorry about that. I am sure that was a difficult decision for you.
Your family has been through so much and I wanted to let you know how much we appreciate your willingness to share this journey with the rest of us.
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Rebecca
What did your att. say about another referral- as far as a time line for another possibility??
We had to say no to 2 because of much the same thing-- a positive HIV and cerebral palsy. We had asked for a child 1-3 and Rosa is 4 and a half-- and we got virtually no medical info on her at all. I so hope your family is chosen for these children in Oregon. When does your paper work begin to expire in Panama?? I was thinking it was this month. I hope you are still telling your att. to look and be persistent-- if he could find a healthy referral, that might make renewing everything worth it-- has he told the DNA about your document expiration??
I am so pulling for you Rebecca!!! yh
Thanks for pulling for us, guys (ladies)!
Our attorney stopped giving us timelines about a year ago, because they were ALWAYS wrong (due to the DNA and judge).
Yes, she (attorney) has told the DNA director that we've been "in the system" since June 2003, and that our INS paperwork will begin to expire soon. Our home study expires in November, and although that wouldn't cost nearly as much to have updated ($100 or so), it's just the thought...Why do it if we're NEVER going to be referred a child or sibling group that we'd be able to adopt?!
Our attorney has been telling us for the past year that the key is to find a child who ALREADY has TPR. Apparently the only children who already have TPR are the ones with HIV, cerebral palsey, Down's Syndrome, etc. :(
We're really hoping that Oregon works out. We're tired of waiting on Panama and we can't afford to spend much more. IF we aren't selected for the girls in Oregon and IF our attorney could get a healthy referral for us, then yes, it would be worth it to renew for yet a 3rd time. But those are big IFs.
Rebecca