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Today marked yet another appointment with my Therapist. I am continually not impressed. (For those about to say, "Well switch!" that is not an option when it comes down to insurance and experience regarding adoption in the area which I live.) So, I've been trying to stick it out. He has hit on some issues regarding my self-loating due to placement and so on. However, he has not yet given me any advice nor even touched on how to deal with comments, telling my story and so on. Why? I'm the first open adoption in the area. Ever. Okay, the first one that he's dealt with and, in my experience, it is VERY rare around these parts for many different reasons. ANYWAY -- I'm getting fed up. I took both of Gritter's books in today (Lifegivers and Spirit) but I didn't give them to him. I felt as though I would be insulting him by saying that he doesn't have enough knowledge. I'm just starting to feel as though there is no hope for me at all. I'm feeling as though I will always have to keep this inside. And it really, really sucks. Yes, I scheduled another appointment. It's my only choice. Edit: Can we PLEASE fix the spelling of counseling? ;)
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Many therapists don't offer advice or make any comments. They let you talk and talk until you come to your own "actualizations." Theory has it that you'll figure it out when you're ready to. That talking about it in a safe and open environment allows you to hear your thoughts outloud... well not just that but how you choose to edit what you think and how you feel when you say it aloud.
There are SO many therapist types that you ought to discuss this with your therapist to figure out what realistic expectations you should have from your experience there... then you can work with his/her method or stop going (really not the best of options eh). You might just get more accomplished though. But don't expect anything like "healed in 6 sessions or less." Can take years.
I've tried both... I've gone to a therapist that gave advice and commented on things before and I thought it'd be the best thing for me. The hard part there is that we often know our own answers but don't like our choices... then when someone says it outloud, the gut reaction is to reject, get defiant, or resent the person who is really there to help you. I 'know' the answers a little stronger because of the experience but I still haven't totally accepted them emotionally. :o
Insurance is a real pain in the therapy department and they often stop payment in the middle without informing you... you find out from your therapist months later that they just didn't pay. Keep your eye on those insurance guys. Sorry they have you cornered with this one.
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