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We have 2 bio children 7 & 1 years old. We have been in the adoption process since 2003. We had to postpone that adoption b/c of an unexpected preganancy. Now that my daughter is 1 we are wanting to adopt again. We have contacted an attorney in Panama and she knows of a sibling group of 2 (girl 5, boy 4) that are in the final stages of TPR, if all goes well we could be traveling in 4 to 6 months. It is all happening so fast, yet we have waited so long for this.
Anyway, I am looking for any advice about adopting older children into a family like ours. My children are very kind, generous, and loving. Our son is very excited and has talked about adopting a boy and girl since we brought this up 2 yars ago. (He has been included in everything we have done with adoption) We all want more children in our family!!
I am asking about bonding between the children, my time with the children - bonding, helping them each feel loved, and a part of the family, while still taking care of my bio children. Also, the girl will be school age when she comes, but I have heard it is best to keep the children home with you for a year before starting preschool, etc. Do I hold her back, or home school Kindergarten? At our school there is a Kindergarten teacher that is fluent in Spanish.
Although our exceptance of the children is still pending on med. report, pictures, etc. I have so many questions. These children are the age group we were thinking about, and we have always wanted 4 children. In fact, when we began the adoption process 2 years ago, my "perfect" family was 2 bio siblings and 2 adopted bio siblings. So, this seems like a perfect fit for us. :D
Anyway, thank you for listening. Sorry I rambled!
Cheryl
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Wow, how exciting for you and your family! I can't answer many of your questions because our two youngest were babies when they came home from Guatemala.
I can tell you that they have bonded very well with us and with our older children. It is as if they had been born into our family. The relationships the kids have are no different than if they were our biological children.
I'm looking forward to your getting more answers! We have considered the possibility of adopting a toddler some years down the road.
Good luck!
Kim
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Hi,
We have three adopted and three bio. Our bio kids are quite a bit older than the three adopted but I think everyone has bonded very well.
As far as the school thing goes... You will probably have to wait and see for sure but it sounds like you have a perfect situation if you have a kindergarten teacher that is fluent in Spanish. We brought our Isaac home almost a year ago at age 4 1/2. Within about 2 months he was speaking lots and lots of English. In September both he and Connor started the 4 year old program at our school. He has done wonderful. Kindergarten is a perfect place to gain language as most kindergartens are so language rich. By the way I am also a teacher and have kindergarten, first, and second grades for 20 years so have some knowledge here I feel. One thing that you may want to keep in the back of your mind is two years in kindergarten even as that would give her two years of that before the real serious reading stuff starts. Just a few thoughts ....