ISO Michael, born 1-8-1987, placed with Bethany

In search of son, born in Woodbury NJ on January 8, 1987, placed with Bethany Christian Services. His birth name was Brendan, his adoptive parents named him Michael. The adoption paperwork was done in Pennsylvania at Bethany's request, in order to keep it closed. My info is here: [url]http://registry.adoption.com/records/425618.html[/url] I have contacted Bethany's Ft Washington, PA office, and they tell me that the "other" (placement) branch office will not cooperate or provide information. They regard the closed adoption as permanently closed. When I chose Bethany (in 1986), I was told that as soon as my son turned 18, they would contact Michael to see if he might be interested in contact with his birthmother. I've been waiting for 18 years to tell my son why I was unable to keep him, and how much I loved and wanted him. I just want to meet him, see what he looks like, answer any questions he may have. I'm not trying to create a new relationship with him, or disrupt his family in any way. I went on to marry and have 2 children, who are 9 and 7 now, and who know that they have a biological half-brother out there, somewhere. They'd like to see Michael, too. I have health issues that aren't in my files, and incorrect information that my parents made me add to my file when I was 17 and pregnant, that was not true. It is important to me to correct the records. I found this link in this forum: [url]http://forums.adoption.com/showthread.php?t=113529[/url] which has the PA State info, and I will register there this week. If anyone who reads this has any advice for dealing with Bethany Services, please reply. -Janice Birthmother