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I am getting so tired of our agency telling us that we are not chosen because we are not in our 30's. My dh and I are very well off and have a lot to offer--and we are very healthy, in shape, and active! So I can't understand why this is our feedback over and over. It's not like our profile portrays us as "old", in fact it shows all of our activities and emphasizes all that we have to offer.
I want to think that our agency is just pushing us aside for whatever reason....but I really don't want to go through the process again of looking for another agency.
Thoughts?? Supports!!?? Am I over reacting?
:mad: :confused: :mad:
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Well.....we are trying to adopt our eighth child.....fifth baby...and third AA infant. (Does that make any sense? :) ) I say this, because I want you to know that this will be our eighth child----our fifth infant adoption which will be an AA baby.
And, I say that because I firmly believe your predicament is due to your agency. Dh and I will be 48 yrs old in the coming months. We have four children still at home, ages 13, 10, 3yrs and 20months.
We have sent our profile to another agency/attorney, who confirmed that they received it today. The worker's comment to me was, "OHHHH, this is WONDERFUL!"
I said, "Well, I just hope someone else thinks it's wonderful too!"
To which she replied, "I don't know how they couldn't!!!"
Now, I haven't done any kind of scrapbooking, there is NOTHING fancy about our profile......we are farm people basically. Our two youngest 'babies' are AA.
I think you need to change agencies. If in any doubt....read the thread here about many of us who are over 40yrs old...and many who are in their 50's adopting for the first or second times and more. This kind of adoption is done all the time, and becoming more and more popular.
Don't get discouraged. Perhaps your agency is 'behind the times'. You don't have to be politically correct, you don't have to be young and vibrant and running your child to the gym with you every day.
You're not too old. Do yourself a favor and find another agency that's with the times! :)
Best of luck....
Sincerely,
Linny
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hi,
I'd find another agency and/or a facilitator (if it's legal in your state). Dh and I were 43 when dd was placed last year. we were specifically chosen by a 15 year old, who liked that we were older. My guess is that it is your agency that's the problem, rather than something else.I agree, time to leave.
LisaCA
Many couples and singles in their 40s and 50s turn to international adoption, because they find themselves in your situation.
Do be aware that it is an excellent option, and no more expensive than domestic adoption.
Sharon
Adopted my daughter from China when she was 18.5 months old and I was "only" 51