17 May 1969 Looking for my birth family

Far out, nothing is ever this easy. I am a 'search angel' and have many adoptive mates, have reunited a couple of families to date. Also interested in family history. On searching your mother, I found this link...same name, same birthdate - but February, not March, in Queensland. Would be very surprised if it is not her. Looks like you have two brothers, Andrew and Craig, and a sister, Kirsten. Hope for your sake this is the right link, m'dear, and that this is actually your mum. Looks like you may have some reuniting to do (and a fellow genealogist has a web page to update). Best of luck. Here is the link. [url="http://www.pcug.org.au/~cfield/distantf/66.htm"]http://www.pcug.org.au/~cfield/distantf/66.htm[/url] If I can help in any other way my email is moondyne@iinet.net.au cheersSamantha

WOW!!! Thanks so much Samantha. Penelope's birth date is actually Feb - I put in the incorrect info to start with - so this MUST be her.I can't believe what can be found on the web.I'm a little nervous now - but will let you know how I go. (actually ALOT nervous!!)YYYYIIIIIIIPPPPPPEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!Kindest regards,Cheryl.

Have you tried doing a marriage search? In case she has changed her name?

Hi Cheryl Well, this is a bit of an unusual situation. Your mum is very easy to find with her married name, and I was a bit worried about how she would respond to an out of the blue phone call. Found her phone number (also very easy) and rang to let her know that there is a query on the net from an adoptee who is looking for her mother, and that there is information on the internet which gives her details, and that she may have to expect some contact...thought it might be a little less of a shock if a stranger called her first and prepared her for it (glad I did that, actually! I feel a bit responsible after relaying her details to you) She was very shocked and surprised (understatement)and I gather, thought that I was not who I claimed to be...a total stranger! She immediately put her husband on the phone who quizzed me at length about who I was, whereI was from, etc etc, and was very protective of his wife. I did reassure him eventually that I wasnt from a government agency or anywhere awful, and that his family details were on the net and were a matter of public record. I told him that I felt obligated as I had contacted you to let them know, so they could be prepared. He said they had a lot to think about, and there were many issues to talk about and think about. So probably a positive outcome (after the initial blast from him!) - they are very easy to find in Queensland via White Pages, but I would suggest writing a letter rather than a call. Don't know Mum's position regarding the whole adoption issue as I didnt speak to her for long, but at least you know she is alive and that you have siblings (who may or may not be aware of your existence). I did also read your post to them and said that you sounded lovely, had three little girls, and wanted only to fill in missing pieces in your family history. By the way, they didnt confirm parentage or add any details or give any information whatsoever, and I didnt ask any personal questions at all. He was a bit sceptical that I wasnt from any agency or group whatsoever (I told him that I was a mum who was researching a forum for my friend, and clicked on your post idly as you have the same birthdate as my son Jordan..) - he eventually accepted that this was actually the case. If you do decide to make phone contact, maybe a phone call to an organisation like Jigsaw to speak to a counsellor would be an idea. They will also contact family if requested and relay details of contact or not. Good luck with it all - I hope you have a positive outcome. I really think that knowing your family history makes a difference - our family has a cancer gene, and every female in our family has a right to know so that we can take preventative measures. cheersSamantha

Samantha,I am really quite shocked and upset that you decided to call my b-mother without letting me know that this was your intention.I also found her phone-number on the internet, but calling directly really is not a form of communication I would have chosen for first contact.I have written a letter hoping that some contact in the future can take place - but felt that it was up to them for now to take the next step.I did not want to cause them harm - and I hope that your phone-call has not ruined my chances of further contact with them.I also would have been very untrusting of a person calling out of the blue.Adoption is such a delicate subject - one I feel MUST be handled with the utmost care.Please ask people next time before jumping straight in.Cheryl.