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I went through Independant adoption. I am Catholic, my son's father is Ukrainian Orthodox. In the adoption papers, I noticed a clause that stated I would agree for the adoptive parents to raise my son in the Jewish faith.
Honestly, I never knew why that was there. On the phone, the couple promised contact, but they cut it off when my son was 6 months old. So, they could raise him in any faith and I of course would be none the wiser. So why would that be so important that it is in the adoption papers? Can anyone shed in my dark corner? Also, I was told they named him Steven/Stephen. If they were so worried about having permission to raise him in the Jewish faith, is Steven/Stephen a Jewish name? I question the name only because of the stack of lie's told to me. It has been 19 years today, and the bitterness never ends.
So, if anyone has any idea why they would have done this, I would appreciate it.
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Presumably the clause was there because they planned to raise him Jewish.
While Steven isn't a particularly traditional Jewish name, there are plenty of Jewish people named Steven. I have a cousin named Steven as a matter of fact. Actually, nearly every American name would be ok to name a Jewish child, though Christopher and Adolph probably wouldn't be high on any Jewish family's list. ;)
I'm sorry they were dishonest with you. I think it's horrible when aparents break such promises.
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MyCatharis...I too, am sorry that the adoptive parents were dishonest to you and broke their promise. We have a semi-open adoption with our birthmom and twice each year we send her updates (letters and photos). She is Christian. We are Jewish. She knew from the beginning that we would be raising her/our son in the Jewsih faith and she was cool with that. To me, I think the clause was put in the adoption papers in your case, just to let you know the plan.
I think the more important aspect is why they cut off communication. That is just not okay.