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YES! I got called yesterday morning for a 1-1/2 yr old little boy from Florida!!! :) :D :p
Funny thing is, I never thought I'd be chosen for him. I know it's (supposedly) down to our family and 3-4 other families for a couple of the kid(s) I've applied for - so he wasn't even on my radar as being a possibility! He was only on the web for 1-1/2 weeks, then taken off right away, so I thought my chances on him (because he's so young) were slim and none.
So...SURPRISE! Needless to say, I'm thrilled. Now I'm just waiting for more current medical info and pictures :) which will hopefully get here ASAP so we can start making travel plans.
Too funny - his SW asked when we'd like to fly down to get him - I said "tomorrow" and she said, no, seriously, and I said "tomorrow" and she seemed confused, so I explained that my personal feeling (and I'm sure the same of all adoptive parents) is the sooner MY SON is with HIS FAMILY, the better! Every day he spends in foster care is another day HIS FAMILY doesn't get to spend with him.
I think she thought I was nutty (lol) but....
Did I mention I GOT CALLED !!!!!!!!
Ok, so I'm a bit excited, even though this is my 3rd time.
Sorry I haven't replied or updated everyone on this situation.
Yes, it's a situation now. And quite depressing.
This is going really badly. Suddenly the baby who was available for immediate placement has all these delays - FL suddenly can't find important paperwork, his lawyer is apparently nowhere to be found (with said paperwork), his SW isn't returning calls.....(neither is mine, but sadly enough I'm used to that :( )
This all started when I asked for CURRENT medical info (he's got vision issues - he's blind in one eye and I'm curious about the vision in his other eye. Will it deteriorate and go blind like the other? etc.) and a CURRENT photo. I told my SW that I could live with him being blind in one eye, but becoming totally blind would just not be a good fit for our family - we are in a small, rural area - the nearest blind school would be 4 hours away - and as a teacher in the public schools, I know that blind children need to be in a school for the blind. That this would be a dealbreaker.
Obviously, this was very important.
(The photo was just for my own personal happiness!)
So, after several delays, yesterday afternoon I got the packet from FL. Surprise, surprise - the photo I got looks to be his 3 mo. old infant/baby photo AND the medical info was the discharge sheet from the hospital when he was 4 months old.
I was floored!!! I thought that current meant AT LEAST IN 2005!!!!!!
Needless to say, I immediately called his SW (and my own) but of course, it was Friday and they had both left for the day already (must be nice! :rolleyes: )
So this to me is a sign of things to come. To have to go through all that "discussing" to get FL to agree to send medical info, and then to get this ****? (I'm quite perturbed about this whole thing)
Now I know I'm still in the running for a few other kids around the U.S. A few of them I'm in the top 3 candidates. So now I'm wondering if I should just....
1. Forget FL and wait for other kids
2. Keep on with FL but take my time to see if a better situation comes up with another child(ren)
3. Give FL a piece of my mind (no, not really, I can't afford to lose any more than I've already lost to my own 2 boys at home ;) )
4. Sit back and see what destiny brings (tho' I'm not much of that "sit back and wait" kind of person) (are any of us???:) )
5. Eat decadent cherry/chocolate chunk ice cream until I'm lost in a state of sugar oblivion???? (it helped last night when I was so frustrated and angry!)
Any advice, friends?
My emotional brain is just fried from all this hoo-ha.
I'd appreciate it.
Thanks,
Sandy
Proud mama to
J, 6, AA, home from NJ in 2001
Q, 3, AA/Asian, home from OR in 2003
and ???????????? :confused:
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Well, I got off the phone with his supervisor (I was told she was the SW by my SW, turns out she's not) this morning and am totally disgusted with the her attitude. She claims the medical info she sent- his discharge sheet from the hospital when he was 4 mos. old - was the most current stuff they have in his file.
You've got to be kidding!!!
Then I told her (again) that I wanted to see the reports specifically related to his vision problems. And the name/# of the eye specialist he sees. She tells me there are no such reports (so he's not seeing an eye specialist?) and she can't possibly release the dr's name/# due to privacy issues.
I explain that I'd spoken to the various specialists for BOTH of my sons - and that the dr. should understand since I'll be his new parent!!! But she repeated that she just doesn't think that's possible. I reiterated that the vision issues are a dealbreaker for me, that I could not adopt a child that will become fully blind. I again asked her to ask his worker (who she's just now identified) to get the information. She said she'd try, but who knows how long that would take and was I prepared to wait even longer since I was so previously excited to come pick him up as soon as possible?
What choice do I have?
Any ideas? Or am I just stuck waiting for medical info that I hope to God will actually come? I just don't know.
I try to convince myself, time will tell..........but that doesn't seem to be very convincing at all.
I just don't know.
Sandy
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