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OK, this is my attempt to clear out the cobwebs and the dust that is the Massachusetts Adoptive Parent Forum.
My wife and I live in Waltham with our two kids (a son age 8 and a daughter age 3) both of whom came to us as newborns and adopted domestically. We came very close to moving last year to another part of the state and possibly out of Mass completely (needing a larger home, we are pretty much priced out of Greater Boston) but have decided to stay put and add on to our existing home. We love the schools here, our multi cultural neighborhood and my current job is only 15 min. away. As for work, I am a project engineer, my wife teaches yoga and wellness. We have two cats, we tried keeping up our 10 gal. aquarium with tetras but they kept dying so we have long since given that up. DS would love to get a gecko but we're dubious because of the kitties.
That's all I can think of for now, anyone else game? And although its the "adoptive parents" forum, it would be great to hear from adopted persons and first parents too.
Tim
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Hi I am just recovering from a failed adoption placement. My husband and I live in Webster and I am a medical assistant for a ob/gyn (umass group). We are trying to adopt through the foster care system. We were placed with a beautiful 28 month old baby girl. We were told that the placement was a sure thing but unfortunatly after eleven great days we lost her to bdad. I am so glad to find a spot just for us MA people! Jocelyn
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I hope more people from MA will join this board. I check it often but not too many posts.
I live about 30 minutes south of Boston with my husband andour "baby" ( cat.) We are in the process of starting our application for an agency in MA. We are a little hesitant at this point because of finances. I would like to get the homestudy going and then try to see how we can do on applying for grants and save up some $. I originally joined the board because I am an adoptee. I was curious to see if anyone was in my situation (adoptee looking to become an adoptive mom) I was happy to find many others in the same boat!
Nice to meet you all. :)[/FONT]
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Welcome, Jocelyn. Sorry to hear about your failed placement. The forums are a great place for support and I'm sure you and your husband have needed it. I'm wondering - was the placement through DSS?
Welcome, tlm216. We have lots of family down in the South Shore. Good luck in your pursuit, I know how hard the financing can be.
Tim
Welcome Jocelyn and TLM!
Jocelyn I'm so sorry to hear about your failed placement - I'm sure no matter how you try to prepare yourself for the risk it's a very difficult time for you. It's great to come to these boards and know there are people who "get it".
TLM - best of luck with the process. I know at least in our case the fees were spread out over time so that made it a lot easier on the bank account. The outcome is well worth the financial sacrifice. Not sure if you know what road you want to pursue (DSS, domestic, or international) but let me know if you need help with any agencies - I think I called almost all of the 50+ agencies in MA!
Karen
Thanks ktates!Yes it is a hard thing to go through and one we had no real way to prep for! Has anyone else gone through the state/foster system? We are really having a hard time with it and find it somewhat confusing?! We are hopeing to adopt a little girl around two years old and thought that this would be outr best bet, not so sure now though! Jocelyn
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Hello,
We adopted through DSS and had a terrific experience although waiting to finalize was long (3.5 yrs) due to courts/paperwok delays. We were not a general placement foster family at the time but strictly pre-adoptive. Some folks have told me they were told to start as a foster family when they really wanted to adopt. This seems like a heart wrenching way to go.
Good luck to you :)
Laura
Howdy neighbors!
Okay, I'm not from MA, but if you think this board is slow, try the RI one! We live about 2 minutes from Seekonk, MA and adopted a 7 year old (now 9) through DSS in MA.
We are a two mom family with 2 cats and a goldfish. We are waiting for a second daughter between 5-8 years old now. We're trying to stay in RI through DCYF this time though. No major problems with MA, but all the red tape that 2 minutes over the border thing made was a pain.
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Hi Opus,
Thanks for asking. Things are slow, as expected. Once our homestudy was complete, everyone said things would be fast this time due to our "openness" and "experience". I don't know what fast means, but if it is less than last time, that just means less than two years. Rumor has it our homestudy is out on at least one child, but the woman who registered it and sent it cannot remember who she sent it out for or where it went, so we can't follow up and nobody else will follow up on our behalf I think. The thing about RI that is frustrating is there seems to be a high level of secrecy about the available kids, so we can't really contact workers directly about a specific child. I don't know if that is intentional or a case of everyone being overworked and not having time to update their system or what. Just the way it is, I guess. Until we are chosen, we don't know anything about potential matches.
So, no news here unfortunately. =(