Negativity in the News...How Does It Affect You?

All the more reason that adoption should be a last resort resolution only for babies who are born to single moms. If the baby is to be raised in abuse, neglect, drunkeness, drugs, mother and baby are forced to live on the streets, things of that nature then yes if there are no family members that are able or are willing to take the baby in, for the best interest of the child so that the child has a good home and can be at least provided with the basic needs, give the baby up for adoption. For other reasons, then no. Society is not like it was back in the 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's maybe 80's, We are more acceptant today of single mothers. There is aid today that will help single mothers. We may not like having to live on aid but we do what we have to do. Noone ever said being a single parent is easy. But we do what we have to do. We know what it takes to make a baby. If we aren't ready for a baby then we need to either abstain, use contraceptives or do what we must do to avoid at all costs as best we can becoming pregant until we are ready for this event. But, please no abortions. Because once the baby is here, it is here. We must be responsible and take care of that baby the best way we can. We may need to set aside our own aspirations, our wants and needs and take care of our baby the best we can. The baby is here because we brought it here. The baby didn't ask to be born. It is not fair to the baby to be given up. And we shoudn't be counting on another family to come in and take over the responsibility although there are many a families waiting to do so. In all fairness, please think about whether you are ready or not for a family before you act. From these stories coming out, you have no assurance that your baby is getting the best of care when it leaves your arms. So please, please, please think about this.

As one who is interested in becoming an adoptive parent, I think my major concern is the fact that these articles paint a bad picture for those considering adoption and foster parenting. First of all, as an adoptive parent, reading stories like this, I would be concerned as to what kind of trauma the child I am adopting has been through, if I would be able to handle the outcome, etc. Second of all, if I were adopting from the foster care system, I would be a little freaked out by what I've been reading in the news regarding sexual abuse, children being locked in cages, etc. I guess as always, it's usually about getting a good story, one that will shock, repulse, or get the greatest response from people, right? I guess this should be expected, but the fact that these stories aren't made up actually kinda scares me. I feel bad for the children being put through this, especially those who aren't lucky enough to get through it all.