Worried

I was just like you a couple days ago. Thats funny, waiting and hoping for that some kind of a miracle day- Man, the day you can finally call him or he can call you, the day where you can legally knock on the door and won't be arrested for harrasment. Are you waiting for one son and have placed two? Or, have you never told another child they have a brother? You should probably tell the other child if you do. You could always play it out hypothetically, "What would you think...?

I never had any children so haven't been in that position to tell a child they have a brother. However I do know know what it is like being reunited with my son. He started searching for me in 1999 after he turned 18 and found my family quite quickly. Unfortunately I had fallen out with my family in early 1999 then moved so they couldn't tell him where I was. After I got back in touch with my parents in late 2001 they still didn't tell him where I was nor did they tell me they had contact with him. Last year I found him through [url]www.genesreunited.com[/url] which is a British based website for people researching their family trees. I remember those years of wondering if my son would make contact with me and how he would feel about me. It got scarier the more years went by but I am now one of those fortunate people in reunion. Pip :)

That IS troublesome, Peg, but you have to tell the older son the truth. Since he is older, maybe he can understand. Since I don't know your story, it is difficult to give advice as to HOW to tell the older boy. For example: HOW OLD ARE THE BOYS? What were the circumstances that you had to give him up? Are the boys full blood brothers or half? Boys are sometimes more difficult to talk with about things like this, than girls. But if you don't tell him, one day he will find out, and then you WILL be in trouble. Secrets have a way of coming to light! Good Luck, Carol Bird

NCpeg I totally agree with Carol. I had not told my children about their half-brother and when he contacted me after 33 years, there was a lot of confusion and hurt feelings in the family. I would never recommend keeping a possible family member from your family. Good luck with your search. Have you any information to go on? An address or a name? There are many family members here who will share their experience with you. Regards - Ann