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I have an open adoption with my daughters maternal birth family. 3 of my daughter's siblings live with their grandmother. Her birthmother was away in prison for a while. I have a good relationship with my daughter's birth grandma. We have spent time with my daughter's siblings and have always told our daughter that this is your sister or this is your brother. The siblings love their sister and think of her as their sister. Now her birthmother is back home and doesn't like this. The doesn't mind knowing our daughter but doesn't want us to tell her who she was. She tells me that she has absolutely no feelings for her bdaughter. She feels as though she had this baby just for me. She said she never had any feelings for her even during the pregnancy. Do you think she is just in denial or maybe she doesn't bond? She told me that she was drunk the entire pregnancy and doesn't remember most of it. i believe that she can improve. Her other children love her but are wary of being hurt again. She hasn't raised them. She said that she knows the type of person she is and that they are better off with her mother and with me. I have told her that I appreciate her so very much for giving birth to my adaughter. She says that she appreciates me for loving the child so much. It seems as though most of the Bmoms I read about here really loved their babies and it was hard to give them up. I just don't know how my daughter is going to feel about all of this when she gets older. She is just 2 1/2 now and hasn't seen her bmom since she was in the hospital after birth. I have so many emotions when it comes to the bfamily. I love my daughter's bsiblings alot.
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