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I know I've always been one to say that age doesn't matter; and I still feel that way. Oddly enough though, while our hopes of having another baby by this time have been delayed (and will be delayed for another few months, it seems); I find myself thinking, "Okay...does this mean we just 'stop'?"
Our delay was through no fault of our own. It was due to a horrific event that occurred within our family and we have had to deal with all of it. I won't go into details, but suffice to say, we feel that in a couple of months, we'll be through this.
If so, we've talked about continuing on with our search to have another baby...and at this point, I'd like to. I know that the last time, we had to literally pass up a baby because of what was going on...which continues to make me so sad; but, I also wonder if this doesn't mean that there is still hope of another baby 'out there'?
We are wanting to adopt another AA baby. Our youngest two are 3 and 2yrs old ( our oldest is 25yrs old). Yet, in less than one year, we'll both be 49yrs old. My first thought is that we'll only be adding another year or two to the 'raising of children'---because our youngest is only 2yrs old.
Yet, I think: "What if the wait becomes over one year? What then?"
Any advice from those of you who are 'over forty....but very close to fifty'?
Thanks in advance........
Sincerely,
Linny
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I am 52 my husband 58. We have 4grown children and 7and 1/2 grandchildren.
Adopting was a trully God thing! We are excepting our little Grace Wednesday night she arrives from Haiti.: :love: She is 13 months. From very begginning to end it has been 16 months. We got out of IBESR aug 4.It has been a roller coaster ride with Haiti. But when she is here it wont matter.
I think it matters how you feel. Physically I think were both young. Also I have great support from my children. I also think when your older you have so much more wisdom and experience. The cares of life dont bother you as much.
We are so waiting for wednesday night!!! email me if you have questions!!!!
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I just wanted to add too.......I started this thread some time ago, asking the question of its title. Dh and I are both 49yrs old....and this is not our first baby adoption; but it seems the older one is, the more it seems that everything works in the right order and at His timing.
God bless all of you still waiting....
Most Sincerely,
Linny
i am a single parent of 7, all at home. 2 adopted step-sons ages 20 & 18. 2 bios ages 13 & 11, 3 foster kids ages 10, 9 & 7.i love it and intend to keep raising kids until god says STOP.i am healthy and try to stay that way.i see no reason to limit myself because of the number of years that i have been on this earth. i insist on enjoying life! oh yeah i am a guy but i don't let that stop me either!
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Well.....maybe not 'over 50' or 'first time mom'.....but how about 'now 50'....and 'not the first time for being mom'?
Dh and I brought home our youngest baby almost one year ago. He was our fifth infant; and our third infant in the last six years. This forum is FULL of folks who may not be 'first timers'...who may not be 'over fifty'....but we're pretty close! :)
You'll do fine, believe me! One of our adoption attorneys has told us, "I've never had a birthmother who ever asked how old a couple was before she chose them!"
That, to me, says a lot!
Good luck and I hope your wait is short!
Sincerely,
Linny
Hi,
I to am not a first time mom but I am 56 so thought I more than qualified in the age catagory.
In April we were chosen to adopt a medically fragile 3yr.old. I was definetly not looking that young, but this particular child needed the support of two parents supporting each other, along with experience not just medically but within the system to advocate for him now and in the future. My DH and I were very apprehensive at first but finally figured it was meant to be. We have two other children at home, one 10 yrs. med fragile and MR the other minor disabilities the major one is he just turned 14Yicks!
I do not bounce back as quickly as I used to, it has definetly been the true test of dimensia as I've gone thru 15 pads of posties and some days I just put it in automatic and go!
IMHO, I think it would be wonderful for any child to be raised with all the attention and wisdom that you could offer. Go for it and enjoy....
God Speed
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I am almost 54 yrs old. I have 4 bio children ranging in age from 35-27 yrs, 4 grandchildren--10, 8, 7, and 6. At age 49 I started fostering children and adopted my first 2 placements at age 51 yrs. They were 2-1/2 yrs and 12 mo when they first came and now they are aged 7 and 5 yrs. The youngest just started kindergarten so I thought to myself, "Wooo-Hoooo, I'll have a few hours to myself during the day :prop: " It wasn't meant to be, now I have 2 foster children ages 6 and 4 yrs. I had always wanted to adopt from Haiti and I'm beginning to find out more about how to do that. Whenever I start to think that my age is a reason to stop I remember Abraham and Sarah in the Bible and how old they were when they had their first child. I truly believe that if God has called you to adopt--then He is able to keep you young while you finish what He has called you to do.
Hi Cabbagepatch,
When I read your post thought it was mine! I am 54, DH will be 56 this month.
I have 4 bio children ages 37-27. Adopted 4, ages 24, 14, 10 and recently 4 with high medical needs. I was actively looking to adopt again, but not a 4 year old,especially with major medical issues which I have no experience with the exception of bandaids and slivers. We were contacted about this little boy who had been in a medically staffed home since he was 4 months old. I struggled and told myself over and over your to old why would they want to place him here etc. etc. I finally realized it was my calling. We flew out to meet him last April and after 5 months of working through the system ,setting up specialists, getting our home prepared and all the training we finally brought him home in September. I do not have much of my "time" or "we" time and by the end of the day, yup I'm tired but I wouldn't change it for anything.
Go with your gutt and don't be afraid to listen to your heart.
Good Luck and keep us posted
God Speed