Not sure if.....

November 21, 2005

Hello. :)

I have a question, maybe someone who's reading this, MAY be able to answer it.

Okay, let me first start by saying, if you read my story "Touched By An Angel" first, maybe you CAN answer this question better.

In my story, I told how I have a niece who was given up for adoption at 22 mos. of age, and the adoptive parents were found and met us through my pastor (at the time), and are of like faith as we. (my family, and the church.)

The adoptin is open, in so that we do recieve pictures and letters upon request from my sister, through the social worker, we had sent a keepsake box to the adoptive family for my niece, for later explanation and things of that sort, and when the adoptive family does send pictures and so on, they are very very loving, and very descriptive about how my niec is growing up. I would not say that it is open in that we visit her, and vice versa. The social worker usually does try for that with her adoption cases, but the pastor did not feel that maybe it would be healthy for her or us, seeing we had her for as long as we did. I guess you could say, we are starting to "heal" a little more now, but of course we still love and miss her.

My question...

I found that there is like this "unforbidden link" we now have. Meaning, when we met them, they told us where they come from, and all that, and somehow, a family in our congregation has OTHER family that actually attends my niece's new church and they know us, and reported back to the other family that the little girl is doing so well, and is starting to look more and more like my sister with each passing day.

Anyhow, I am not gonna trail on up there, and try to see her, 'cause I'm just not like that. I'm not crazy. Nor has my sister for that matter. To be honest, as a part of our healing, we don't even talk about her that much anymore, just because it's been a while now, and we are slowly but sure moving on, and the more we don't bring it up, the "better?" we do.
But, I sometimes wonder if God allowed this "open passageway" for some later purpose. I don't know. But, is it wrong or unlawful to send a letter, to the adoptive parents, NOT my niece, to this family that shares this congregation with her? I DON'T want to do anything, "wrong" you know? And if someone responds and were to tell me it might not be best, I am honestly okay with that in my heart. Making the scrapbook of her from pictures I do have, and just being on this site IS enough for me. But, I was just wondering. They are very very sweet, and alot like us in many ways, as personality goes. The adoptive mother said she had a great amount of respect for me, still, I don't want to do anything out of line.

Just wondering.........