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Chat Rules
While the Terms of Service (TOS) refers to the basic rules and guidelines of the site, there are other rules we enforce due to situations that have occurred over the years. Please take a moment to review the Chat Room RulesӔ.
Rules are subject to change as new policies are forged.
1. No vulgarities, obscenities, name-calling, character assassinations or mockery are allowed in chat. While there are appropriate adultӔ topics, the vocabulary used needs to remain family friendly.
2. No personal attacks or flaming of any kind. You are welcome to disagree with a member, but calling them names or flaming their character is not allowed. If you have a personal issue to discuss with a member, please take it private and discuss via PM.
3. Please remember when chatting in the FoyerӔ that all members of the Triad are welcome to chat here, please keep this in mind when chatting and discussing topics. Attacking adoptive parents or those hoping to adopt because they have adopted or hope to adopt falls in line with this.
4. Monitor decisions are final and are not to be debated at any time. Please remember that there are often behind the scenes details that you are not privy to. Certainly you can question or comment on a decision directly to a monitor via PM or to admin via email, but remember, it is not up for debate. We will not engage in a debate over decisions.
5. Discussing banned members is only allowed in the context of general discussion. You are welcome to discuss the member personally, but discussing the banning or reasons behind it are not allowed. We do not share the reasons why a member is banned, as that is private information kept between the monitors/admin and the banned member.
6. Members who require excessive reminders of the rules or whose participation results in excessive need for monitor/admin attention may be banned without warning.
7. Private Messages and e-mails, which are exchanged privately, are not to be posted on the forums, in chat or in Private Message without consent of all parties involved. Discussions stemming from the topic of a Private Message or e-mailed conversation are fine, provided the above rules are followed.
8. Under NO circumstances are harassing, vulgar or threatening PMs permitted. If you receive one, please take a screen shot of the message and forward it to a monitor or admin for review. If you are found to have sent one you will be banned.
9. Please respect other members. If you can't do that, put the member on your ignore list and go on your merry way. Continual harassment can be grounds for banning.
10. Posting links to offensive material Җ anti adoption sites, pornographic sites, etc. is not allowed under any circumstances. Ignorance of what is housed on the home page or deeper within the site is not an acceptable excuse. Make sure that anything you post in chat is suitable for a family site.
11. Do not impersonate anyone. TrollingӔ is grounds for an immediate ban. Members are allowed to participate in chat using ONE account, with the exception of certain circumstances to be determined on a case-by-case basis by the monitors/admin. Chatting from another account without disclosing why you are doing it and who you are, we will assume you are a troll and you could lose both accounts as a result. Those members who currently chat using more than one name need to make a decision on which name they would like to use and notify admin of the other IDs so they can be removed.
12. Asterisking out curse words in order to get your point across is not an acceptable way to bypass ChatҒs auto-moderating of offensive words. Please share your thoughts, opinions and feelings in a way that doesnt require the use of curse words. We realize that sometimes there just aren't words to convey how you are feeling and you might say "It's truly one of those @#(*$&)(*&#% days today" but saying "That guy is such a @#($*&@ boob" clearly indicates a bypass of ChatҒs auto-moderating system and is not allowed. Similarly, spelling out auto-censored words with symbols is not acceptable nor is using abbreviations and/or use the phonetic spelling of curse words.
13. Remember that monitors are volunteers. It is impossible for them to be in chat every minute of every day. Please dont assume that because action hasnҒt been taken that something is ok. If you see activities that violate the Terms of Service or the Chat Room Rules, please save a chat log, note the time of the violation and send any and all information to admin@adoptionmedia.com.
14. No soliciting! Under no circumstances will any soliciting be allowed. This means you may not ask if anyone is interested in adopting your baby, and it also means that you may not approach someone who says they are pregnant and ask about adopting the child. Anyone doing this will be banned from the site without warning. This rule is strictly enforced!
15. These are not chat rooms for minors! Teens may find topics more to their interest in chat rooms and forums especially for them - and several are listed here on the Youth Page: [url]http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/resources-info-for-adopted-and-fostered-youth.html[/url]. All minors under the age of 18 will be asked to leave and may be booted if they refuse.
16. Be sure to have fun and be safe. Don't give out your full name or your phone number or even your email address to someone you don't know. The less information you give out about yourself, the safer you are. Remember: you never have to give out any information about yourself, including age/sex/location information!
By using the Chat rooms, you agree to all rules posted herein in addition to the Terms of Service and Community Rules, which can be found here:
Adoption Media Community Website Rules: [url]http://www.adoption.com/community.php[/url]
Adoption Media Terms of Service: [url]http://www.adoption.com/legal.php[/url]
These chat rooms is for you to learn from and enjoy, but not at the expense of others. Have fun, but be respectful and play nice!
In your use of these chat rooms, you agree that you will not post any information, which is vulgar (except as allowed above), harassing, hateful, threatening, invading of others privacy, or violates any laws.
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have a ?, there is some concern that PM's are really not private? Is this true? I know that if I am in PM with someone and save the chat, they show up. But are others able to see them? This has cause a big rift in chat. People are using yahoo IM's while in chat, due to thinking the pm's are monitored
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I have in the past told regulars when in a situation that they believe against chat rules etc, to save chat log, and send to monitor or kiwi(admin), thier pm's show up in them, with whoever they were chatting with. I would like to know if this is something you would like us to continue to inform the "regular" chatters of? and if the invisable thing ever is put back on, can it be somewhere in the rules or somewhere so folks realize that chat is monitored sometimes without knowledge? but that it doesn't include PM's? I am rambling, sorry, it is late, but I really want this clear in my head.
I also would like to address the issue of being attacked by chatters in other venues. I am a volunteer like the other monitors, but I am gonna just come out with this, and slap me if you must. Dawn is under this impression that I am 10 other people in chat. She has a 360 blog about a.com and it is ridiculous. I read it (dumb on my part, and have commented on it) . I have another ID I used to use, KippersbeRoon, when I was taught by Dawn how to come in a room and have more than one window open. that is the only other ID I have. I told Kiwi about this; being able to have multiple windows open as different people, and she said DO NOT DO IT!! I stopped, I did it one time, to see if it was possible. It is very confusing to do anyways. But it is being passed around that I am all these other chatters, and a few other chatters are all one too...eek, it is crazy..please help me with this. I can handle, "get over it Roon" if that is the answer, but I am a bit bamboozled at this whole situation.
Yes, when you save a chat log, YOUR PM's show up - no one elses.
If you send it to me, I will have your PM's.
However, there is no way for me, or you, to view their PM's unless they do this. Even with a functional chat log, we are unable to view PM's.
As far as off site abuse goes - there is really nothing we can do about it. If she brings it here, we can deal with it. Again, I am limited because I have no chat log.
As far as advising members about ghost chatting, no we won't but they'll know, cuz DigiChat will be back...also, we've tried and failed to defuse the PM situation for many many years - and we've done all we can do.
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One thing I would like to add, that goes along with something Roon mentioned...it would be nice if it were in the rules that (when we get invisible back) people may be monitored by us without their knowing it. I've had people in the past tell me that they felt very uncomfortable after they found out they were being watched by monitors that were invisible. If they were aware that this is something that is going to happen, then they will have no excuse to get upset...they will KNOW that there is a good chance they may be watched without being aware of it. Just a suggestion :)
Oh...and will these rules be posted somewhere that they will have to be read before entering the chat room? That way, no will will be able to say "Oh, I didnt see any rules!"....
Its possible that we might add that - we'll see.
Also - I'm not sure what we'll do about posting them, they will be posted and just like old digichat, we will have scrolling reminders and possibly a perma-link in the room somewhere that takes you to the chat rules, which will be posted on the site.
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