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I am curious to your thoughts of who you are to your placed child. Before reunion, I had never thought much about it...I am her Momma. However, since reunion, I have learned to accept she has another Momma...so do you like being called birthmother? First mother? Natural Mother? Mom or by your first name???
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I like to be called by my first name or OH GODDESS MY GODDESS, whichever .
okay, first name. My daughters Mother is her Mother and always will be.
dmca
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No, Not at all. There is NOTHING strange about that. My birth daughter and I have a special relationship, but I let her make that decision
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mamabee
I am curious to your thoughts of who you are to your placed child. Before reunion, I had never thought much about it...I am her Momma. However, since reunion, I have learned to accept she has another Momma...so do you like being called birthmother? First mother? Natural Mother? Mom or by your first name???
I've been in reunion with my son of 28 years since May, contact was April this year. Right from the start he called me "mum". I signed off emails with my first name until I adjusted to it, which wasn't long! 2 weeks later I was signing off as "mum". He calls his amum "mum" and he calls me "mum" and I'm fine with that. I just love him calling me mum, and when he phones, to hear him say "hi mum!" just sends me onto another planet. I'm delighted. I consider his amum to be his mum and she is special, not just to him, but to me as well and I feel I am "mum" too, but there is no competition, I feel she has been and is a great mum to him and as his bmum, I am starting a great journey and learning about him, we are on the road to a great relationship and we are very happy. So I guess you can tell, my favourite is being called mum!!!!! ha ha. :rolleyes:
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I was reunited with 18 yr old bson just 8 months ago. He made first contact. He calls me by my first name, and introduces me as "my birthmom, Mona". I am fine with that, but truthfully, oh how I long to hear him call me mom. We have established a wonderful relationship and have discovered many commonalities, and I can't stop thinking this is "my" baby! But he frequently speaks of his "mom" and it brings me crashing down to earth. I would never ask, or expect him to call me anything other that Mona, but secretly it will be my dying desire.
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that's encouraging for me to read, I've been reunited with bson 8 months and it feels wierd to have him call me by my first name, but I don't want to put him on the spot and ask him to call me mom if he is uncomfortable with that.
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Whatever makes you feel good. I've known grandparents who like to be called by their first names - maybe not comfortable with being g'parents yet :) - and I've known of friends of the family that want to be called "Aunt." I think it matters more to us than the child.
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My daughter calls me by my first name and I'm happy that she calls me ANYTHING. lol
I think of myself as my daughters natal mother as that is biologically correct.
I would never dream of asking her to call me Mother, Mom or anything. She has a mother and now me, so she can call me anything she likes except late for dinner. lol
dmca
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interesting thread.......
i would love her to call me mom......but whatever she choses to call me is fine .......
i refer to her as my daughter.......
but in person i would call her by her first name.......
shes been my daughter from day 1......and i DONT call her birthdaughter ....nor would i ever......
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ok shhh, this is a secret, I too pray that just ONCE before I die, my daughter calls me mom.
don't tell
dmca
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Hi Mommabee,
My daughter refered to me as her first mother. I feel that I am her Mother and her amom is her mom. Of course my girl calls her mom her mother and sometimes the parents too. But when my girl makes contact with me she calls me Cammie. I also call her my daughter, I never use the b word.
Sincerely Carmel
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I haven't reunited yet, so I'm just thinking of my daughter as my daughter and me as her mother. I don't think in the term "birthmom" but I write it this way here for clarity. Also the few times I'm talking about her to my husband I just call her my daughter. Hopefully we reunite and of course then it's up to her what she calls me.
One of my Aunts has a daughter placed at birth and they've reunited. Her daughter went the other way contrasting to what's been described so far. She calls my Aunt "Mom" and her adoptive mother by her first name now.
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I was rereading this thread and thinking about my own situation. D calls me Kathy which doesn't bother me at all. I find myself wishing however that his kids called me Nana like my other grandkids (they call my other children aunt and uncle). I never said I was consistent!
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Funny that you pulled this thread back up Kathy, I was just thinking about this the other night. I dont really get to hung up on titles and names, My bson will call me whatever he is comfortable calling me.
When I saw the question "What do you like to be called" I instantly thought, "I just want to be called" :p
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