It's gonna be a loooonnnnng 6 months

Here's a heads up, and not to burst your bubble of happiness, but you need to make SURE that the BF isn't being coerced. He has rights too, and some of the most nasty situations arise, when a decent guy is lumped into the bf sterotype and treated as discardable and whose feelings are discounted. I pray that all will work out for everyone too. But 6 months is a long time, and she is most likely still making up her mind and will continue to go back and forth constantly until after the baby is born. Thats why the final can't be signed until then.....because THATS when it becomes a reality. Make sure that all parties are receiving support and education on the post placement issues. Please guard your heart a bit until things are final. Until the papers are signed, adopting is only a possibility. It's a possibility you will adopt the baby. BE excited for the POSSIBILITY of it happening. Too many hearts are broken when things fall thru (they often do) and the ones who keep realistic (and excited) are the ones who aren't as hurt if anything falls thru. (not saying it will). I'm happy for you, and it truly is awesome that you got the call on mother's day. I just want you to be prepared for ALL the outcomes. It helped me to look at situations as "IF they choose adoption, then WE will be the parents!" And be excited about that aspect. BTW, we did have MANY fall thru, but never did they cause me grief, because I knew I was only excited about the possibility of it. Are you going to have a fully open adoption? I hope my post didn't sound like a downer....I'm just too much of a realist. I really am happy for you, but early matches like yours fall thru more often and I want to be sure you're prepared for that too.

I certainly understand the risks - we've experience a failed adoption (were there to pick up the baby and had to come home without him) and I am realistic but still very excited - I told A. that even if it didn't work out I will cherish this experience. Yes it will be a fully open adoption - as is my daughter's - in fact I'm going to go and get her tomorrow to have her help in buying a piano and she is going to start coming to my house to scrapbook with my group. The bf is not being coerced - he doesn't want anything to do with the pregnancy but is not willing to relinquish. His father is in favor of the adoption and is counseling the bf to relinquish. Well just have to keep up the prayers. Both A. and the bf are LDS but the bf is inactive. A. really wants an eternal family for her baby and knows that at this time neither she nor the bf can provide it. We will probably have a face-to-face with him when he comes back to town this fall. I know that it will be a wild ride, many ups and downs but I'm going to enjoy the journey regardless of the final destination. irvy mom of a beautiful 2 1/2 yo angel expecting #2 in 26 weeks

Sounds good! We just get a lot of newbies on here who are a bit less educated, and I just wanna make sure stuffs all balanced out. I am actually friends with a bf who was coerced just recently. He didn't realize he had the option to be a single parent. And he is a good guy who earned MORE than the ap's. It's so heart breaking. He even had a nursery all put together and a ring to propose, and the gf'f family went "utah mormon" psycho on him and her and he backed off. HE thought he was going in to meet his future in laws, they took the opportunity to ambush him into placing...he was reeling from that encounter when she delivered and and didn't relaize he had rights too. Now he is in anguish all day every day wishing he was the daddy of his lil girl. He is even in his late 20's. I dunno how things will turn out, but he was treated like a deadbeat and he actually was just too shy and too hurt. He is the main reason I try to get people to give equal consideration to bdads that is given to bmoms. IN most cases.

Congratulations!! We are happy for you! We were matched just a month before you and are due Aug. 11. Absolutely have some yummy celebration food!!!

Okay - I'm still flying - but it's still going to be a long time. Cary2Laura - Congratulations backatcha :clap: so do you know what you're having? We will be having the ultrasound in about 6 weeks. I would love to share the journey together if you would like to PM me. Aspen - thanks for your concern and I am so sorry that happened to your friend. A. is coming over to our house for the first time tomorrow. :eek: I'm a little more nervous than I get for the homestudy, but we are who we are and I hope that it all works out. Wish me luck, irvy mommy to a beautiful 2 1/2 yo angel expecting #2 in 25 weeks

Are you both matched through LDSFS?

Just thought I would update everyone on my journey. Things are going great. We have a beautiful relationship with A. and have attended all of her Dr. visits including the ultrasound - I was holding her hand when we found out we are going to have a boy. She really is involving us in the pregnancy (sends me belly pictures and everything) Also the birth father signed the relinquishment papers in June so that is a possitive thing. We are so relieved. We told him (through the case worker) that he could have some contact with him but he has chosen not to talk with us. We will still be open to contact later if he chooses. Our little boy is growing beautifully and will be with us sometime in the middle of November. I hope all is going well for the rest of you and will try to let you know when more comes up. irvy mommy to a beautiful 2 1/2 yo angel expecting #2 in 93 days