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My lovely, sweet wonderful daughter just turned 2 on December 12th. It's as if a light switch went off and my daughter turned it back on with tantrums, fear, clinginess, possessiveness, independance/dependance and much more. It's the weirdest thing. It's like she is a textbook 2 year old. I know this is all normal. I am hoping it passess smoothly. But while it's going on- whew!! One of the biggest things I have noticed is that she is fearful of things she used to not be afraid of. She asks what every single sound or noise is. Then she tells me she is scared. She ONLY wants mommy. She turns into a wet noodle when my husband tries to pick her up. She has always been a mamma's girl. But this is exhausting! I think if she could crawl up inside of me, she would! lol! Oh, and her tantrums (although amusing) are in full force. One minute she is happy, and the next she is flopping herself down, kicking her legs, crying, screaming, throwing things...."Calgon, take me away!" I don't remember my son acting this way at two. But when he turned three he was awful! Then he turned sweet again at 4, 5, 6...Then he hit the age of 7. He turned into a mouthy, ornary, defiant pain in the rear! Now he is 8, still mouthy, but not as defiant. Ahhhhh, kids...gotta love em~ :banana:
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As long as everyone is eating in the kitchen she will probably be fine. Snacks might be harder than meals, because she might be the only one eating. Try making it fun, like color in a coloring book and have snack at the same time. Or have meals that are fun/she can help make, which will get her used to being in your kitchen. Do things like make little pizzas (or even english muffin pizzas) and let her put on the toppings or pull a stool up to the sink and let her wash the fruits and veggies. When my mother in law comes over, she frequently bring a kitchen project for her and my daughter to do and it is always a huge hit. Maybe even have a special apron for her (and invest in a vinal tablecloth or a special palacemat for while she is visiting). It will also be a great way for her to get reaquainted with you, since she likely will not remember you off the bat.
Good luck and have fun!
John is 23 months and is definitely starting the terrible two's! He likes to throw things when he doesn't get his way. Even the things he said he wanted. I just take the item away and usually when I give it back he holds onto it. He will also cry at the drop of a hat and then the next minute be cracking up laughing. It is like PMS for toddlers!
a) I'm glad I read this post tonight--Meg is having a serious "mommy" attachment right now that's making me crazy. Every night while I try to make dinner, she freaks out and just hangs on me--hubby does his best, but it's just ridiculous and sooo frustrating.
b) Snuffie, I would lay some ground rules and be prepared to bribe. Since it sounds like your grandkids don't visit that often, you want it to be pleasant, but you don't want your house trashed. Your kids should understand that! As far as eating goes, Megan does better at my parents house because she has a special place setting there, and we make a big deal about it--it works like a charm because we're only there about once a month! Good luck!
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John is 23 months and is definitely starting the terrible two's! He likes to throw things when he doesn't get his way. Even the things he said he wanted. I just take the item away and usually when I give it back he holds onto it. He will also cry at the drop of a hat and then the next minute be cracking up laughing. It is like PMS for toddlers!
My younger son turned 2 in July. He started entering the "terrible two's" a couple of months before his second birthday. As a baby he was a little Buddha, serene and happy. As a toddler - well, Buddha left and was replaced by Ghenghis Khan. Temper tantrums, no-no-no, hitting, throwing toys, preferrably at the TV.. He has also developed the talent to double his weight when he doesn't want to be picked up. His 29 lbs easily double when he resists. I weigh about 110 lbs, so there are times when he is really difficult to handle. I can feel that some of his "growing pains" come from not being able to speak very well yet (he is growing up bi-lingual, and his speech is coming along just a tad bit slow) I just grin and bear it. Oh, and my kids aren't allowed to eat anywhere but in the kitchen. They keep trying to circumvent that rule, but I stick to my guns. Lucky him that he is so cute and so sweet... despite all the chaos.
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snuffie
Anyone have advice for a grandma of a two year old who is coming to visit? She lives out of state and we haven't seen her for more than 12 months. And she is in the terrible two's with a vengeance! She is allowed to drink and eat all over her apartment but I don't want her to eat anything outside of our kitchen because I waited 20 years for new furniture and carpeting! I don't want to alienate my granddaughter or my kids but I need to know how others have handled rules in the grandparents houses.
Some great ideas! Thank you! I did get a cute Disney princess dish set for when my granddaughter visits. She loves peenk so of course it had to be pink.
Remembering back I think both of my boys skipped the terrible two's and saved it up for the terrible three's!
Then they got better for a while and really saved it for the teen years!
Nick started around 18 months (though it could be argued that was some molar issues). Right now, his terrible two issues come during any kind of transition: inside to outside, out of the car to inside a store, inside a store back to the car, into the nursery at church, back out of the nursery afterwards, etc. Right now, the only way we can deal is blatant bribery. Oh, parenthood. (He will be 2 in 3 months... or, almost 2 months. Eep.)
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For some reason, I found my DD to be the most difficult from 18-24 months. Since her second birthday, she seems "easier" - - maybe it's because she can communicate better. Though I will say she has had her first full fledged tantrums recently and they aren't pretty, not 'tall!! I love the description of the evloution of Buddha to Genghis Khan! DD was the "easiest" baby in the world and I could not believe it when she became such a difficult (tho I guess it's "typical") toddler!
I am so SICK OF THE WHINING! I am at my wit's end. I have been reading parenting books and trying different strategies, to no avail. HOW DO I GET THIS TO STOP!!??? I do not pay any attention to him when he whines, but that just seems to escalate it. He talks so well, in complete sentences, so I can't understand why he has to whine!! ok, vent over. Time to shower while Marco is asleep and Sesame Street is on.....