Good luck on finding Positive stories

I was not at all surprised when I logged on her that I found a new thread had not been started in over a year and most of them did not have positive stories. It makes sense since most of the people on here are adoptees, since NO ADOPTEE CHOSE ADOPTION. It was never our choice to have our history stolen to hide the sins of our parents. It was not our choice to be abandoned. It was not my choice to become my Adoptive parents "charity project" that they grew bored of when I did not show enough appreciation for their charity. Our Birth Mothers were lied to and told we would have a "better life" when most of the time we traded a sense of family belonging for a lower middle class standard of living with families that all too often viewed us as damaged goods. Almost every adoptee I have ever met has at least to some degree a sense of disconnect and feeling though it is just really hard to feel like you belong anywhere. I have never met an Adoptee that did not feel a sense of loss because they had been deprived of their heritage and biological family ties. We need to stop referring to adoption as a BETTER LIFE it is not better. In the case of Children voluntarily placed for adoption when they have a parent who could parent them with the right support because they believe their child is getting a "better life", adoption becomes a piss poor replacement. I am not saying there are not good adoptive parents, there are. I am not saying there are not some children who need to be adopted. I am saying that kids with parents who CAN raise them with the right help, should not be convinced to give them up saying someone else can give them a better life. Because in all honesty, that sense of natural belonging, can not be replaced. The feeling of abandonment can not be made up for by a woman saying "I chose you". All I can say is if you can raise you child DO IT. Do not let anyone fool you into believing you are giving your child a "better life" by abandoning them. We need to put more effort in helping young girls effectively parent and less in convincing them to let someone else have their child. A "better life" is just propaganda to ease the guilt of young mother, so agencies can have pretty new babies to sell. Adoption is big business. And has little to do with what is best for the child. Adoptees do not chose adoption. Put this the choose adoption thread on the site for adoptive parents. I am sure many of them have wonderful stories. Since all the laws were written to protect the rights of the ADOPTIVE PARENTS and not the child or their family, I have no doubts that there are plenty of happy stores (at least until their children enter their teens and start to ask the hard questions). Yes I am angry. I am tired of babies being treaded like charity cases that should be thankful for whatever they get. Celebrities and how they advertise their adopted kids like the newest designer handbag. Trying to boost their ego because they are being so charitable taking in this child. For every baby there are 10 families waiting. The least my parents could have done it let someone adopt me who really wanted me and understood that NO baby is perfect. I am not the BASTARD I did not sin, I did not abandon anyone, I did not suffle anyone off to a home, that did not want her and say they have to take her just because they were in the process of adopting her brother. I did not threaten to take away the brother if you don't adopt both. Sorry but that word should be reserved for the people who put innocent children in those situations. I like how family preservation is so important in siblings but they make every effort to encourage Birth mothers to abandon their kids to a "better life" I am sooo sick of hearing about my "better life" I could scream.