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There is so much bitterness about being called either birth mother or adopted mother. A big competition as to who the child's mother is. Reminds me of that book " Johnny has two mothers".
I was just talking to my bestfriend about my own birth daughter and realized that I am her NATAL mother and she is related to me NATALLY.
Does that term help?
Mother ( adopted) and natally related?
dmca
I'm so thankful that this has never been an issue in our open adoption.
The only time I ever call M's mom an A-mom is here on the forum :)
M calls us both mom, her choice, which her mom is totally ok with and encourages.
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I'd never heard the terms amum or bmum before coming on this forum.
I call my mum, mum, as thats who she is, and my birthmother I call by her first name as thats who she is.
It never crossed my mind to call my bmum mum, ever. As that right goes to the one who brought me up. I could be wrong but i doubt whether it crossed my bmums mind either.
I do recall a couple of my bmums friends in the early years commenting on my calling my bmum by her first name.
Either she(bmum) or i whoever got in first would remind them that she wasn't the one who brought me up, therefore she wasn't mum.
Nicely said SILK. I am natally related to my daughter but her mother is her mother and always will be. Perhaps some have competition issues that they need to deal with?
dmca