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I could just cry everytime I think about it :( , I am so very mad too!:mad: Here goes, my four year old has 5 cavities, and yesterday I took him to get 2 filled. This is a Pediatric dentist mind you, and this is only his second formal trip to the dentist. Well, I asked them how this normally goes, because his is ONLY 4, and they said well we'll just take it slow and see how he does with it. Well, I don't know about anyone else, but I didn't know what is the norm for this sort of thing. He was on laughing gas, but I don't think it did a whole lot for him, he was very fidgety. The nurse gave him some numbing stuff so that it wouldn't be too bad with the shot....and I know most kids are terrified of reg shots, but to know you are getting one in your mouth! :eek: My nephews dentist tried three different approaches before finally deciding to put him to sleep for it, he was 4 too. NOT MY DENTIST :mad: ! She had another lady come in and I thought she was just going to assist.....this is where I got mad and upset....she laid across his legs and the other nurse held his head while they jabbed that needle in his mouth!!!!! :mad: :eek: I didn't know what they were going to do until they did it, they didn't even tell me or him. THEN...to top it off he kept saying ouch...ouch..while she was filling it and she said "it isn't hurting you...you're just making your mother upset, if you don't be still and stop I'll have to make your mom leave the room" :eek: , NOT THIS MOM! I feel like the worst mom in the world, all I could do was hold his hands and keep saying it's ok baby, it'll be over soon...then afterwards I said mommy's so sorry :( . Ugh, he has three more cavities to fill, you think he's going to go without a fight now???!!! I doubt it...two have to be capped which involves more :grr: . I'm going to get his records for which I have to pay 25 dollars after paying almost 200 yesterday and I HAVE insurance :grr: . THEN, I'm going to give them a piece of my mind and THEN I'm going to go to someone else. Does anyone have any ideas on this? Is this the Norm, do they usually do that sort of thing with children that young? HELP!
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I'd also have the new dentist call and ask for the records to be faxed over. I don't pay a fee for records when I do it that way?
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I'd also have the new dentist call and ask for the records to be faxed over. I don't pay a fee for records when I do it that way?
I'd also have the new dentist call and ask for the records to be faxed over. I don't pay a fee for records when I do it that way?
My husband recently did some non-dental related work in office for a dentist - the same guy who started the Gentle Dentists is also now doing another one - I think it's called Comfy Dentist. You might look in your area. They're supposed to be really great. My hubby was installing a projection screen and projector mount, so maybe they let kids watch movies during procedures... I didn't think to ask. But did think that we'd check them out when we take Babe to his first dental appointment.
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Oh, I could so relate to the Worst Mamma ever!! I took DD for her 9 month blood test yesterday, and they had to take blood from both arms :eek: , since she was moving so much with the first arm, blood stopped coming out, so they had to do the other arm... and I did the same thing, I was just holding her and telling her it will be over soon :grr: Why did I do that? I dont' know, believe me I was crying too, but didn't do anything else to stop the lady. However, I did tell the lady not to fill all three tubes like she wanted to do, hopefully they'll have enough to do all the tests. The first arm is bruised since she moved so much. So, I feel so bad!!!! and of course I did this all by myself, husband had to work :grr:
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and I did the same thing, I was just holding her and telling her it will be over soon :grr: Why did I do that? I don't' know, believe me I was crying too, but didn't do anything else to stop the lady. However, I did tell the lady not to fill all three tubes like she wanted to do, hopefully they'll have enough to do all the tests.
I know how you feel I have been there and done that. My son, who is 11 now, ad an abcest tooth right in front and had to have it pulled when he was 4. The dentist refused to put him to sleep or even give him the gas. They told me that they could not do that for children his age. So they put a shot in his mouth, then waited till he calmed down then put more in. Then took forever to pull it out. I have had teeth pulled before using the gas and I swear they will have to knock me out to do it again, so imagine how my poor son felt. When I told my mom what happened she called her next door neighbor who just happens to be a dentist and he told her that they never should of done it that way. (BTW I was going to go to him, but he couldn't take our insurance)After hearing this I called the dentist up and chewed her out and I told her I would never come back there again and I would make sure none of my family or friends did either.
There is no way I would have let them do that to him, not to pull a tooth, I bet you did chew him out I know I would have. Thank goodness our children bounce back so quickly, I had to go and pick up my baby and my four yr old just passed out cold on the ride there. This is something he NEVER does, so I know he was just plain tuckered out...poor baby. I'm glad you let that dentist have it...I can't wait to say something to this one!
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I am an office manager in a dental office. This kind of treatment is not the norm. I will say this.........I know it is hard for you to sit in the waiting room but kids do much better if the parents are not in the room with them. I would only do this in an office that does not hold down the kids to numb them. My dentist tells the kids to close their eyes and they will feel a little pinch. She calls the drill the whistle train to get out the sugar bugs on their teeth. I hope this helps.
This is truly my memory of my first experience with the dentist, back in 1980 or so. I was 4 or 5, and I had to have a tooth pulled. (My father used to feed us spoonfuls of sugar. Thank you, Mary Poppins.) I was held down by the hygenist, and she kept saying, "Stop crying; you'll scare your sister" and other things like you wrote. I remember my mom and my little sister (age 3-4), standing on the other side of some glass, just staring at me. After the appointment, I refused to go to the dentist. My mother would have brought us back to the same one, but I wouldn't get out of the car, if I remember correctly. So, at the very least, you are a better mother than mine was in this regard. From my experience, I would add that you might want to check from time to time to ensure that your son has really gotten over the experience. Sometimes, kids forget that they're afraid, then remember, if that makes any sense. You're doing the right thing now, and you've told your son why what happened, happened. You are a good mom.-R
I'm ashamed to admit it, but I didn't go to the dentist for thirteen years because of a dentist just like that. He was so mean. As for the gas, my dentist won't use it on little kids because she said they have adverse reactions sometimes such as breathing trouble. She says it's dangerous. There is some pain we must all feel from fillings, shots, and extractions, but not unsympathetic, mean people to yell at little kids! My dentist uses headphones, sunglasses to avoid the glaring light, and she tries to make sure there's enough numbing gel on the kids first. Her tools are Slurpy and Squirt, and the drill is fighting the bad 'ol sugar bugs, not to mention the toys and freebies that await the children afterward. I love that woman. LOL My boys have never feared going to see her.
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WOW! I just read your post and I know it is an old one, but... WOW! That was a pediatric dentists ofice? I think I would be calling someone.. I don't know, maybe dental referal servicew to let themknow how insensitive they are there, and I would tell every person I spoke with.
When I take my kids to the dentist (pediatric) they are so good there that I want to go there myself! Our youngest is 7 now, but when he was 5 1/2 and I took him for the first time (we got him at five) he was having a hard time. before they took him back I explained that I didn't know how he would react because he has anxiety disorder. He started freaking a bit when they went to clean his teeth, so they slowed way down. Afer a bit they got him to relax and he did great. They were gentle, and kind.
I hope that your son has a good experience with a dentist real soon and can put this behind him. that is the kind of thing that can make a child terrified for life.... and I speak from first hand experience. I am one of the rare people that do not numb from novacane, which was all they used when I was a kid. With every cavity I fewlt every little thing they did. I still break into a sweat just by the smell of a dentists office.
Yes mrsred, that was a pediatric dentists office, and the dentist that performed the fillings was not the dentist who's on the door, she was filling in for the dentist who owns the practice. Apparently, she is out on Wednesdays, and she was also getting ready to go on Maternity leave, which meant this dentist would be filling in for several Months!!!! I got a bill from this office and the day that I took my son in for his tooth to be capped....AT ANOTHER PEDIATRIC DENTIST....I called them when I got home to find out what for. The woman in billing was explaining it to me and I told her that after what we had gone through, I didn't feel like I should pay them for anything more!!! I was so mad and upset just thinking about it again, and she said can you please tell me what happened. I did..and I started crying I couldn't control myself, when I saw them holding him down and the tears streaming down his face, just the memory will haunt me forever. She said I am so sorry and I will tell the DR about this as soon as possible...and she apologized again. Within 15 min the head dentist, who owns the practice, and was the one we met originally on our first visit, called me back. She herself apologized and said that she would have a nice long talk with her fill in dentist about her bedside manner and that I should have said something sooner. I told her I was not sure if that was a standard procedure there, she said absolutely not, that the other dentist didn't have children and apparently couldn't relate like a mother could. Anyhow, sorry to ramble, but I did take care of the problem and we did go elsewhere and the second experience was soooooo much better, the third not so well...but not because of the dentist, just one of those things. THANK YOU all for being here and making me feel like I'm not such a horrible mom after all!!! :)